outgoing friend requests

mlb3c · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 8:36 am Post Subject: outgoing friend requests

I must have had the option once upon a time to request friends but now I don't. Nothing else seems to be missing, there just aren't any options under outgoing friend requests.

It would seem I dropped a clemmy
Nevermind, I figured it out

bathstyle · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 8:38 am Post Subject:

Count yourself lucky to be able to consider people on here as 'friends'

mlb3c · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 8:46 am Post Subject:

the time diff is the biggest obstacle---but they're are some really good folks on here that I am proud to call friends!

bathstyle · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 8:47 am Post Subject:

Sorry to hijack your thread but I am new to this site, how does one go about PMing someone, do you have to be friends first?

mlb3c · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:06 am Post Subject:

yes you do have to be friends ---but as I have woken up this morning and it dawned on me--click on the person's name and you can request that they be added as a friend---not a guarantee they will say yes, but it puts you where you have the option. Does this help?

bathstyle · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:20 am Post Subject:

Thanks for the info.

OMG, I have a message in my inbox

Got your message, that's good to know

mlb3c · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:35 am Post Subject:

happy to have helped

bathstyle · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:37 am Post Subject:

It's not quite as simple as I thought, I just tried to PM someone, who I'm not friends with, got this message :-

"You are not friends with the user you are trying to send a message to. You can only send private messages to friends, unless they have allowed messages from 'non-friends'"

mlb3c · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:43 am Post Subject:

sorry for the 'duff' info then Im an american--blame it on that

kevplumb · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:43 am Post Subject:

send the friend request first

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Diyisfun · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:48 am Post Subject:

bathstyle wrote:

"they have allowed messages from 'non-friends'"

or
do as above

bathstyle · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:52 am Post Subject:

I just tried it, same result, have to be friends first, even with a friends request pending.

Strange how Mlb3c managed to message me without me having accepted the friends request, I guess my setting are different.

I guess it stops Spammers as it's a busy site, still makes it difficult to contact people and I am now forced to put a black mark against the messaging system.

Bahco · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:35 pm Post Subject:

Bathstyle, Kev is watching you VERY carefully.

Hi Bet ,PM you later.

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bathstyle · Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 6:45 pm Post Subject:

Bahco wrote:

Bathstyle, Kev is watching you VERY carefully.

Hi Bet ,PM you later.

Well, I read your post earlier but didn't quite understand it...but now all is clear

DIYnot · Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 9:20 am Post Subject:

To clarify, for members who joined before the Network (and PMing) arrived their default setting is only to be contacted by friends, for members who joined after the Network arrived their default setting is to be able to receive PMs from anyone.

This setting can be altered on the Message Settings page.

We did this because we determined it would be 'reasonable' for members who joined pre-Network not to expect PMs from anyone (only friends) and to only enable this feature as they wished. For new members post-network as the PMs are a default feature it is 'reasonable' for them to expect to receive PMs.

As I mentioned before this option can be changed as you wish on the Message Settings page.