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Child's behaviour... (Sorry for long post)

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by sxturbo, 12 Oct 2021.

  1. charliegolf

    charliegolf

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    A few other tips...
    • Don't ask him about his behaviour when he's collected.
    • Don't fish for goss on bad behaviour in others.
    • Do ask if he had a nice day, why, best bits.
    • 'Catch' him being good at home, note it without showing your hand.
    • Do challenge any challenges to your authority at home, but maybe use your disappointment as 'the sanction' rather than 'taking' something away (until you really have to).
    I suspect all will be well if there remains a genuine partnership with the school.

    CG
    20 years a primary head (Retd)
     
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  3. johnny2007

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    Whatever you do, don't let the NHS convince you that your child needs brain dumbing pills.
    Those are extremely dangerous drugs, even at very low dosage.
    The fact gps have been prescribing them like sweets in the past few years, don't make them ok, especially for a child showing perfectly normal behaviour.
    I have direct experience with children, now adults, being labelled as having all sorts of behavioral and learning difficulties.
    They're all, ALL OF THEM, responsible adults, with a good place in society, families, some of them graduated, many speaking other languages and all trustworthy people you can count on to get things done.
    100% is not a bad statistic.
    Don't get fooled and don't give your child any pills.
    The only people benefiting from that are the pharmaceutical companies.
     
  4. charliegolf

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    FFS, shut up about pills, everone. Massive red herring. Ignore any talk of it.
     
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  5. johnny2007

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    I'm against them in case it wasn't clear.
     
  6. diy_fun_uk

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    Whether the stuff about organisations making money out of this is or isn't true, I wouldn't class things such as pushing people off bikes and punching other kids in the stomach as 'normal' behavior, even for that age range. Yes, of course it goes on, however it's not normal behavior.
     
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    Many moons ago you were a weirdo if you didn't do it.
     
  8. Justin Passing

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    Mere survival isn't necessarily the optimum outcome.
    "Managing without" isn't clever.

    Docs have nothing to gain by telling you something's off kilter if it isn't. They aren't corrupt & uncaring.

    You can always get a second opinion. You don't have to take their advice. Who would you rather trust, a conspiracy theorist on a web forum?

    Could be your lad's teacher is highly experienced and giving you sage advice - or maybe just annoyed and over enthusiastic.
    How about a phone appt with your doc - they're keen on those! Make a list of what you want to say. Any experienced doctor would have heard it all before. If not they'll know someone better placed. They may say forget it that's all perfectly normal, which I'm sure would be a relief for you.
    There's a long list of things you wouldn't hesitate to use drugs for if the chemistry is a bit off. May be only temporarily. When I was small I was scared of flying, a hay-fever pill calmed me down - not a big deal, not a deal at all.

    If talking with him in a particular way as charliegolf suggests, helps, there will be folk to help with that - you & I are not experts.
     
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  9. Justin Passing

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    This isn't the 19th century.
     
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    A good point (y)
     
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  12. sxturbo

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    Threads escalating a bit....

    I'm not seeing the gp just yet. And I don't think pills are the answer.

    Will speak to the school next week... Parent and teacher evening.

    As it happens today he got 2 stickers for excellent behaviour today...

    Very Jekyll and Hyde
     
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    Pushing people off a toy or snatching a toy they want is pretty normal for a child.

    The punching the stomach thing maybe not, but he thinks it's a game as he does it to me at home when we're messing. I am making a point of no longer play fighting with him to see if this helps stop the behaviour.

    I believe he's just pushing boundaries, he very much does things without thinking what may happen as a consequence, again he's only 4.5.
     
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    As does my Grandson! Not so bad when you know it’s coming but if he creeps up on you………
     
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    Lol, yeah
     
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    Coke?
    Chocolate?
    100g of milk chocolate contains 45mg of caffeine, about the same as a cup of tea.
    I was thinking the other way round, that your lad may be subject to others' outbursts and this may make him lash out.

    For what it's worth, we learnt to praise our boys every time they behaved in a positive way: shared things, helped, did what they were asked, etc....

    This seemed to help.
     
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    Bloke I used to work with

    his brother had 6 children and they were all on some syndrome medication

    he got X amount paid a week to him per child because of it ;)

    one time a day you had well behaved children

    children that were badly behaved and some thing in the middle ?

    now they all have some syndrome
    Diagnosed by some £300 an hour expert

    win win situation because now it’s nowt to do with parenting it’s all some syndrome :ROFLMAO:

    every thing is some one else’s fault or some syndrome caused by eating Big Macs 7 days a week or mobile phone micro waves

    etc etc
     
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