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Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Bodd, 9 Oct 2021.

  1. kingandy2nd

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    No advice on the question Bodd, but a similar to in some ways to what I experienced earlier this year.

    A friend of mine (for 20 years) passed away from the big C. Started with him having back ache in April, and by the time he was diagnosed to his passing was only 2 weeks in the middle of May.

    He had a wife and 4 kids ranging from 12-19.

    All very sudden and very shocking. Thankfully he had plenty of life insurance so the family are set financially, but it impacted hugely on the kids to start with. However, with counselling they’re bounced back pretty well, his other half is still adjusting.

    Personally, it affected me a bit too. Likely due to the fact it’s the first person of a similar age to me, that I knew well, who had passed away. It made me very aware of my own existence/mortality…and I made a few life changes because of it.

    While it’s great you’re there to help your friends family out, there is also no harm and nothing wrong with you taking a bit of time for yourself in light of this awful event.
     
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  3. People disappointed me and its that that gets me down.
    Before and after the funeral people say " if you need anything and all that shít.

    He had another plumber mate who when she had water leaking through the ceiling told her to call me.

    4 of us agreed to do this or do that before the funeral other 3 seem to have gone missing, even my best mate. I said I could do with some help but got told by the other plumber he was fully committed for the next week..

    The plumbing and heating is in such a mess I'm thinking this is all on me.
     
  4. thomp1983

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    She needs to get onto the mortgage company and let them know what's happened, for a short period they should be able to stop the mortgage payments and shouldn't be able to evict anyone until its established what will happen with the house and if its covered by any sort of assurances.

    Next stop is the dwp and telling them she's now a single mother with no income, they'll provide something albeit not alot
     
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  5. kingandy2nd

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    You can only do as much as you can, and I’m sure whatever help you can offer is gratefully received by the family…even if you know there’s more that could be done.

    Unfortunately you can’t control other people, but if they’re good enough people/friends you can call them out for broken promises.
     
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    Are you getting old and sensible :D
     
  7. kingandy2nd

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    First part definitely, second part not so sure.
    One of the things I did was buy a sports car I’d always wanted but never quite pulled the trigger on previous:)
     
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    Where abouts in the uk is the house (for the plumbing work purposes)?
     
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    That's a good idea - some of us, local to the area, donate a bit of free time to help sort it out.
     
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    Exactly,I’m sure there are enough tradesman/handymen etc on here who could chip in (just depends on location of the property).
     
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    If she is still married (legally recognised?), the house and other assets goes to her. Any pre-marital assets or agreement have no bearing on her inheritance. Girlfriend gets nothing.

    Pre-Nups offer little protection in divorce. It’s kinda the default position that pre-marital assets are outside the pot anyway.
     
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  13. Essex
     

  14. Was you thinking of coming yo give me a hand?:D
     
  15. John the plumber

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    Essex is slightly out of my working area I reckon lol
     
  16. Are you in Cornwall?
     
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    I am indeed
     
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