Many thanks, appreciated.
When I was younger, as touched on previously, I was a bit jealous of my OH and felt I'd hit the jackpot. I guess I lacked self assteem
for whatever reason.
My current OH, as I said, we have same passwords but I do look at their phone/laptop at times and it's been done to me.
I've met many people via work and once or two family/relatives/etc where they bang on about what they would do if their OH cheats on them.
Sadly, when the time comes (often women in my own experience at work) the victim of the deceit falls apart. I've seen it first had to at least three female colleagues inc a manager. The manager is/was sort of bully but if you was not a socphant and worked well and knew what you was doing she had a lot of respect for you as she did for me. The manager was not known to go off sick she went off sick and as she was closer to other women than me and other managers, I thought she was just unwell. This is until about the third week in she rang I did a group call pick up and we started chatting and I said I hope she is well soon and she told me she liked the comments and jokes i made on the cards and then asked if I knew - she told me and i nearly fell off my seat. This person was the last person on earht I'd expect to fall aprt if their oh left them but it is what it is. The bloke never returned he stayed with his new lover a young lady and this manger gradually recovered as she had no option as to bills/etc but was off for a few months
I dread being cheated on and if others are honest they'd feel the same. It is easy to cheat for most men when they are younger get gets harder as you get older. However, with ladies, I've seen a few ladies in their 60's out with men in their late 30's and from what I've seen women tend to look better,
as they get older but guys on the whole don't
Years ago a bit of flirting was left at work but these days mobiles and laptop chats and jokes soon turn into testing the next stage and the jokey, jokes about how many lovers you had/kissed etc and "we are now a bit more than friends" turn into a one night stand or a lot more
When people/couples cheat often the children lose out as well as grandparents and via work almost every second client of mine was/had 2-5 kids and most of the kids had different dads
Marriage is not waht it was years ago and yes, my wife did cheat on me but I have forgiven her and I'm happy with my new OH and she is alone as she found out to her cost after a few years together with the lover he was just after her money, place to live in etc.
Yes, lol at me is you wish but I hope you never get decived as it's nasty, really nasty and when it happens the victim often fall apart.
I've invited my dear friend over for the night he has never been to our current home and never stayed the night, he politely refused initially but said he will see. I think he knows that I'm fair and honest and would tell him to his face in private if he was wrong or she was.
I said it and its true I hardly have any friends as IRL I do not like hypocrites and sadly many people inc some of my family are just that. I'm always polite to a polite person but if anyone takes the p IRL and I don't mean joking, I dont speak to them again other than a little hi and bye.
There is never a need to deceive your OH, tell them you want something different and split up. The grass looks greener on the other side of the mountain but in reality, after a few weeks, one of the new lovers often gets borded and goes back home.
