My boy started school in September, he was super excited, and seemed to settle in quickly, it was a bit of a shock for him the the first full week because his school for some reason do 2 weeks of half days before then switching to full days.
Before starting school he was at nursery from 7.30 till 6pm, so we thought he would be ok going full time school.
Over the past couple of weeks we have had calls from the school regarding his behaviour,
The first call we got was he wanted to go on the balance bike but a boy named Henry was on it, so my boy decided he had enough of waiting his turn and promptly pushed him off the bike and jumped on it. The school told us that this wasn't the first time he's had issues with the bike with my boy deciding it was his bike and no one else's. We jumped on this very quickly and he knows he has to share and he is well used to it. This appears to be resolved.
Then we got a call that he was being disruptive in class when the teacher was reading a story, and point blank refused to listen so ended up having a time out. We have had a word about this, it's still an issue but not to the same extent and is wholly dependent on whether he is interested in the subject matter.
Then we got a call about a child that wet themselves in class, and my boy grabbed the boys coat that was hanging up and started to mop up the pee with it, this was mis placed helpfulness imo, but the teacher didn't see it as such.
Yesterday he punched a girl in the stomach as he was leaving the food hall
And today he pushed a table in the food hall into a child hurting there stomach.
The school has now referred him to a behavioural specialist they have at the school.
Both me and my wife are dumb founded, everyone else always complements his behaviour and he is mostly good at home ( the odd bad behaviour but he is 4.5 it's to be expected).
Each time we get a call from the school we do make a point with our son and he loses TV privilege, tablet privilege and no sugary treat (usually a biscuit before bed). We explain to him that he has done wrong aswell.
We encourage good behaviour by using a star chart, when he fills the box with stars he gets a treat, this is usually on a weekly basis and will involve us going out for the day, or a new toy, or just out for lunch. When he is naughty/doesn't listen he loses stars. We find this works quite well at home, and have carried it to include school aswell, but it doesn't seem to work at school.
We feel terrible as parents and don't know what else we can do, and the school is making us feel like we are failing.
Part of me thinks it's just a 4 year old thing, and I'm sure he isn't the only child who has phone calls home, as our boy was bitten quite badly on a finger last week.
He has also on a couple of ocassion got star stickers for doing really good work/helping/listening, so he can't be all that bad, and he is regularly coming home and teaching me.and my wife about what he has been learning, he was doing maths the other day, adding and subtracting, and today he was telling us all about alliteration, so he is clearly learning and understanding.
Anyone else had something similar with their kids?
Before starting school he was at nursery from 7.30 till 6pm, so we thought he would be ok going full time school.
Over the past couple of weeks we have had calls from the school regarding his behaviour,
The first call we got was he wanted to go on the balance bike but a boy named Henry was on it, so my boy decided he had enough of waiting his turn and promptly pushed him off the bike and jumped on it. The school told us that this wasn't the first time he's had issues with the bike with my boy deciding it was his bike and no one else's. We jumped on this very quickly and he knows he has to share and he is well used to it. This appears to be resolved.
Then we got a call that he was being disruptive in class when the teacher was reading a story, and point blank refused to listen so ended up having a time out. We have had a word about this, it's still an issue but not to the same extent and is wholly dependent on whether he is interested in the subject matter.
Then we got a call about a child that wet themselves in class, and my boy grabbed the boys coat that was hanging up and started to mop up the pee with it, this was mis placed helpfulness imo, but the teacher didn't see it as such.
Yesterday he punched a girl in the stomach as he was leaving the food hall
And today he pushed a table in the food hall into a child hurting there stomach.
The school has now referred him to a behavioural specialist they have at the school.
Both me and my wife are dumb founded, everyone else always complements his behaviour and he is mostly good at home ( the odd bad behaviour but he is 4.5 it's to be expected).
Each time we get a call from the school we do make a point with our son and he loses TV privilege, tablet privilege and no sugary treat (usually a biscuit before bed). We explain to him that he has done wrong aswell.
We encourage good behaviour by using a star chart, when he fills the box with stars he gets a treat, this is usually on a weekly basis and will involve us going out for the day, or a new toy, or just out for lunch. When he is naughty/doesn't listen he loses stars. We find this works quite well at home, and have carried it to include school aswell, but it doesn't seem to work at school.
We feel terrible as parents and don't know what else we can do, and the school is making us feel like we are failing.
Part of me thinks it's just a 4 year old thing, and I'm sure he isn't the only child who has phone calls home, as our boy was bitten quite badly on a finger last week.
He has also on a couple of ocassion got star stickers for doing really good work/helping/listening, so he can't be all that bad, and he is regularly coming home and teaching me.and my wife about what he has been learning, he was doing maths the other day, adding and subtracting, and today he was telling us all about alliteration, so he is clearly learning and understanding.
Anyone else had something similar with their kids?
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