in reverse
when you switch off an ordainairy switch you do just that switch it off (two contacts separate or break) .end of story.
as voltage increases so does its ability to jump
now lets use an ordainary switch and switch off high voltage (not that you would)
you turn off the switch and the contacts move apart as they move the elecltricity is still flowing, but as the contacts get further apart the elctricity starts to jump the gap (it arcs) and continues to flow, now the switch is in the off position but the high voltage electricty is still flowing (oh dear)
that is what happens.
Now imagine that you have a "proper high voltage switch" with a much bigger gap, as the switch moves the same thing will happen, the electricty will start to jump from one contact to another and even at maximum distance it will still arc.
Don't know how or who, but it was realised that if the switch is immersed in oil the switch will not arc (or at least not as much so when maximum distance is achieved you really have now turned it off.)
(there is also such a thing as an airblast circuit breaker but you can guesswhat it does by its name
Flash over
this is again to do with arcing. if you are too close to high voltage and it "sees you" it will jump to you and........ instant death.
You may be unaware at the time but you may have something you shouldn't i.e metal ladder / pipe etc this will make you more "attractive" and so the elctricity will jump to you.
Electricty will always follow the shortest path.
The above is in "easy speak" my understanding of the questions asked, although i did not mention arcing causes heat rise and other such info.
High voltage electricians and electricans are different, so i may be wrong.
before any one asks you may have seen "linemen" running down the cables on overhead pylons ( i have seen them) which are live why are they not killed if what i have said is true? the answer is their baskets are hooked on by helicopter which is not actually touching anything.
I am also sorry to hear of the loss of your friend