We seem to have eliminated the valve as a cause so the only thing left is circulation.The pipework under the floor is 28mm reduced to 10mm close to the radiators where the 10mm tails run through the walls to the rads.
The maximum boiler output is 17.58 kW (50k BTU) but it can be reduced to a minimum of 14.65 kW. When both HW and CH are running the rads and cylinder can handle the boiler output; but when only the CH is on the rads cannot absorb the output, so the system overheats and the boiler cuts out.
Use the data in the Stelrad Catalogue (page 44) to calculate the output of your rads.
PS the temperature 20 degree difference you mention is degrees F. This is important as heating engineers now work in degrees C and 20C is 36F!. Modern condensing boilers are designed to work with a difference of 20C, but not your boiler where an 11C difference is expected.
The maximum watts of all the radiators in the house is 8548watts or 9kW - the DHW Cylinder is 1050mm x 450mm - 140 litres so would that take around 3kW to heat?
How can I tell if the heat of the boiler has been reduced or does that happen automatically. I see what you mean about when the CH and DHW are running together but what when it is DHW only as this works ok.
Given these figures what can I try next?