I used to use 2 bolsters to set the gap and pull and push like a maniac to close the gap but i have a new technic
I use some thick nails ( whatever size gap you want ) and very lightly chap the nails tight to the board which is already down on each joist. Start to lay the boards with the bend OUT the way and work your way along pushing against the nail and screwing as you go.
If it is really bent you may want to go half way then skip to the end whilst you still have enough leverage to bend it round and go back rather than trying to bend 50cm at the end!
Works a treat! When you get to the end just quickly pull the nails out and chap them in ready for the next row.
Some may argue that you are creating a wee hole in the joist for water to penetrate but i dont think its an issue in the bigger scheme of things!
Point to consider...............I used to spend ages trying to get the boards with EXACTLY the same gap. I have to remind myself that wood is a natural thing and as much as we can ASK it to take a shape, we cant MAKE it. As soon as it gets a bit of frost / sun / rain etc etc it will all move and change shape anyway to a certain extent. Basically, try to get it as straight as you can but dont go nuts, in the long run it will move as they all do and it will look just fine
With gap in mind remember that the boards will shrink when dry and expand when wet. If you leave a big gap and they are wet you could loose a child when they dry out
Even if they appear to be very dry they could still be holding lots of moisture as most standard decking boards are stored outside. If during the summer we get a few weeks of sunshine the gaps will increase!
Hope that makes sense!