i cant see how its over your boundary, the fire and flue has to be on their side (obviously) so it looks like the wall is set back from the boundary line.
Unfortunately vaillant use their own version of ebus that only works with vaillant controls, it wont work with other ebus controls, you can use the tado but only as an off/on control .
There is a good chance one of the 2port valves you have is stuck in the on position, I can’t see exactly but I think it’s the top one that’s doing your hot water.