a quick check of the cable that runs from the battery to the starter on your car will give you a good idea of what size cable is required
No. You don't need cables as thick as the wire that goes from the battery to the stater motor because jumper cables are not supposed to carry all the current necessary to start the dead car directly and instantly from the good car
Battery terminal clamps look like they do (a round hole, slightly tapered, clamped around a round battery terminal, matchingly tapered) to ensure a large surface area of contact because that's the way it needs to be to reliably pass hundreds of amps
Jumper lead clamps do not afford you the same level of surface area contact and form a weak point in the connection that is comparatively much higher resistance than your whopping cable. You'll also note your jumper leads need to be much longer than the cable from battery to starter, which is typically very short (or very chunky if the battery is in the boot)
All in, most of the effort on starting a dead car should come from boosting the battery of the dead car, and as a result if you're looking for some indicator of how thick jump leads really need to be you should be looking at the wire from the alternator to the battery, considerably smaller than the wire from battery to starter..
..and hence one should be waiting for the good car's to charge the dead battery, not expecting the good car to be the battery for the dead car; all that's going to do is risk damaging something on the good car.
Don't forget that, for example when you crank a working car normally, the car's alternator/charging system is not active and not seeing seeing the massive load from the starter and not providing any power into it. Connecting a dead car to a good one that is running, and instantly cranking, asks the good car's charging system to supply part of a massive load that it never normally sees. In the interests of protecting it, it is better if you give it some minutes to "slowly" charge the dead battery at a lower rate that it is better designed for, then cranking so the was-dead-mow-charged-a-bit battery provides most of the effort
To this end jumper leads can be much smaller than you expect, and the relatively poor connection of the clamps is a vital safety feature, limiting the amount of current that can be pulled through the jump leads in the interests of not stressing the donor vehicle