If you encounter someone who's 7' tall and say "you're tall", is that abuse?
That's pathetic.
Well, you would say that, wouldn't you.
I would say it if it were true, and not say it if it were false.
Please note that I have labelled
you as pathetic, either here or anywhere else; I've merely observed that your justification of abuse, and/or denial of it taking place, is pathetic, in the same way that anyone doing the same thing would be behaving in a pathetic way.
Put another way, "pathetic" is the word that accurately describes
some of your behaviour. Some other words (that apply to some of your posts that have since been deleted) are bigoted, childish, and self-righteous. I can give clear cases in point, and, in each case, by applying your very own method of observation, logic, and intuitive reasoning, demonstrate beyond the doubt of every reader except yourself that you are capable of being all of those things whilst in the very throes of denying them.
If you encounter someone whom you've never met, never seen, never spoken to, and you've never seen any video footage of them mass debating, and you call them a w*nker on an open forum, is that abuse?
If they clearly behave like one, is it abuse?
The moderators of the site that you appear to so fervently visit appear to view it as abuse. That opinion aside, it's unequivocally unhelpful and unfriendly, which is what most people object to.
At what level of accurate and descriptive condemnation of someones unacceptable behaviour clearly, unambiguously and repeatedly displayed on an open forum do you draw the line?
That's an example of a childish question.
Any civilised adult is capable of drawing the line for themselves, and of accepting the consequences of crossing it, and of doing so without using an irrelevant and distracting
ad hominem line of reasoning.
If you find yourself unable to do that, even if only temporarily, then it's time to re-examine whether or not you're capable of acting in civilised way.
If you want to have an objective discussion about what constitutes abuse, then you should start a topic on it, and ask questions, and be prepared to listen to other people's opinions.
However, on the tiny number of posts of yours that I've read, the dominant flavour is that you believe that you know you are correct, and yet you ask questions of people in a manner so as to trap them.
If you believe that your justification for the thing that you call 'being factual' and other people call 'being abusive' is unassailably correct and valid, then even the faintest hint of a question that makes someone else think that you're open to listening to the answer is the kind of dishonesty that you yourself would call "lying"; it's merely a more subtle form.