You're a fellow human in personal stress?

On thr medical front, the plot thickens.
If you have an ECG which looks like some sort of trouble going on, it can be just OLD , so you need meds for angina, which is aspirin, plus statins to control (stabilise) artery plaques, and a TNT spray.
But they didn't give her those, either, they just sent her home, referring he back to her GP. I'm not sure , then...
 
I am sorry for your loss.

I made a subject access request to the government as my solicitor said they would respond quicker to me than some corporate body.
 
Old Salt said:
I am sorry for your loss.

I made a subject access request to the government as my solicitor said they would respond quicker to me than some corporate body.
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To the Government?
For an NHS matter?
No.
You need to send the request to the NHS trust who's dealt with the subject for the quickest reply.
If more than one Trust you can send it to the central NHS team, but I wouldn't.
I would send individual requests to the various Trusts.
 
johnny2007 said:
To the Government?
For an NHS matter?
No.
You need to send the request to the NHS trust who's dealt with the subject for the quickest reply.
If more than one Trust you can send it to the central NHS team, but I wouldn't.
I would send individual requests to the various Trusts.
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Ministry of defence - hence government in broader terms in my case. The point is the OP may get a quicker response by applying personally although a solicitor may have a bit more clout with the various health trusts.
 
Brother called. Thankfully he's dealing with the next one.
Mother is 96, in a home.
Always desperately makes out she can't hear, in pain, crying wolf, "never hears from anyone", etc etc etc
Now wants to die.
Refusing food or drink, now hallucinating, waving her arms about, calling at people who aren't there.
On oxycodeine for pain, midazolam (like benzodiazepine/valium), to calm her down.
Not eating when very weak forces respiration by consuming muscles. Not much of those left. Lactic acid builds, makes blood acidic, liver doesn't work properly, heart gets less oxygen, kidneys don't filter blood, and that. Viscious circle. Then often an infection gets in, (pneumonia the old man's friend), to notch the load up.
Just watched it with my wife, glad I don't have to with mother, though she's had the extra 30 years, so it's time, and she wasn't a nice person, at all..
They've stuck a drip up to keep her alive over the weekend, because it's so inconvenient when they peg out at the weekend. It would be like her to be difficult.
 
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Mum has died too. At least there was plenty of notice, so the ducks are in a row. I bet there's a complication, though.
It's a relief.
If she'd been a dog she'd have been put down long ago.
Old peoples' homes are effectively, maintaining many non-viable zombies on life support, at considerable cost to everyone else.

I'm still finding the squalls of grief for my wife blow through me at incovenient times, filling the nose with snot and turning eyes red.
Those will have an extra chill, I suppose.

It's taking its toll. I have this funny chest pain...
 
Sorry to hear about you mum, I agree we are kinder to animals in such situations.

Waves of emotions are entirely natural. Time is the greatest healer.

Hope the last sentence was a joke.
 
kingandy2nd said:
Waves of emotions are entirely natural. Time is the greatest healer.
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That’s true. Clearing out our mother’s house, I have a little cry (well, a big one actually) a couple of times a day. We've got our children and grandchildren coming round for dinner on Sunday. When they are here, all of them, they are all going to get a nice cheque each that my mum left them. Well, when she made the will 20+ years ago, only our son and daughter were mentioned obviously but we found a hand written note with the will written recently telling us to give a similar amount to any great grandchildren, son and daughters husband and wife as well as to set aside the same amount if our daughter or our sons wife were pregnant and to "give it with my love". Oh, I’ve started myself off again! Mrs Mottie says it will get better. I hope so.
 
Justin Passing said:
It's taking its toll. I have this funny chest pain...
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kingandy2nd said:
Hope the last sentence was a joke.
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Not , actually. Hearing things like this makes everyone more anxious - including me!. And STRESS does do bad stuff to a person.
I've said before, I have pain all the time - joints, muscles, neuro, so "is this a new one?".
 
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Justin Passing said:
Not , actually. Hearing things like this makes everyone more anxious - including me!. And STRESS does do bad stuff to a person.
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Goodness me. You’ve had an awful lot to deal of late, so stress is an unfortunate side effect.

You might think such things are nonsense, I did at one stage, my try a mindfulness app to see if it helps.
 
I think when a parent dies, perhaps especially when it's the last one, it's a reminder of your own mortality.
A wife dying suddenly has meant unstoppable unruly damned squalls of grief running through . Mum going, added a chill, for a while.
 
Unspectacularly.
Sunday, long story short, I had a horrible pain in my chest. So I made the call. I expected a quick ECG to clear me, but there were other signs etc so they took me in. Loads of tests, and they found a couple of things. More tests to come. What's the point!!?
 
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