Now to the cylinder stat. If I have BOTH heating and hot water on (middle position of the three way port) changing the stat does not effect the position it stays central and continues heating both.
If I have just the hot water on (in water position of three way port) changing the stat does not move the position or stop the flow or turn the boiler off. (So that leave the issue being with the stat or wiring?).

That's a classic sign of the missing wire I mentioned, the one that tells the MV to close off the HW port. But it could also be caused the stat being faulty and not making the wire live.
As I said the valve at rest sits in HW only position
With the heating and hot water both 'on' and calling for heat such that the valve is in the centre position CH & HW. Does it move to HW only when you turn off the hot water at the Nest?
And as @JohnD says "it's not fine" the valve shouldn't be 'letting by' whatever setting the pump is on.
The pump doesnt tell anything to come on or off, the 3 port valve tells the boiler and pump when to come on or offIf the pump is the only item in the loop that tells the Boiler to come on or off.

Is it something simple like you have a back up immersion heater that has been turned on accidently ?
The pump doesnt tell anything to come on or off, the 3 port valve tells the boiler and pump when to come on or off

I don't think you fully understand how the 3-port valve works. There's a good explanation here.
Ideally you need someone competent with a multimeter who can make tests safely and check that the right wires at the MV are being made live when they should be. If they are, and the valve's not performing as it should then a new MV is the way to go, if the wires are not providing the right signals, there's another issue.


If you turn the thermostat on your boiler to 60 degrees the water in the cylinder cant get any hotter than that until you work out whats wrong, definately check the immersion though, you would be surprised how many I see where they are adamant it is not switched on and it actually is
The immmersion has a thermostat if it is switched on untill the water reaches the temperature that the thermostat is set to, then it switches off, but to be honest most immersion thermostats are cheap rubbish and fail oftenHi Ian, thank you ill do that.
Wouldnt the immersion be on 24/7 though? Its got a direct switch next to the tank which is off but I will remove the fuse to be sure thanks for the suggestion.

The immmersion has a thermostat if it is switched on untill the water reaches the temperature that the thermostat is set to, then it switches off, but to be honest most immersion thermostats are cheap rubbish and fail often

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