But where are you really from? Lady-in-waiting has resigned.

[motorbiking]

Is this lady in waiting really 83? Entirely different generation. She is well and truly pre-woke and almost certainly meant no offence.

 

[Justin Passing]

That's a bit strong.... what side do you shoulder your chips

Look, here, I am a well balanced person.

Chips on both shoulders.

--

Moving hair out of the way and grilling her "No, where are you really from", was noxious.
The person should have said, "I'm a d**ky from w**land, Hackney, Your name's Hussey, so you're a prostitute, right?" .
As an official she should have known better however old she is.

I've got a name people sometimes ask about, which is fine. I would maybe ask someone where their name was from. There's usually some degree of link between a person and their ancestry/heritage, and it's interesting. Sad if there isn't.

If Hussey had laughed it off and said something like "sorry, I meant is your ancestry/heritage African or Caribbean?" or something, since that was the theme of the visit, it would have been over.
Actually Ms Fulani is of African-Caribbean descent, which I daresay she feels is relevant.

 

[Bod ...]

Moving hair out of the way and grilling her "No, where are you really from", was noxious.

She's 83 years old. In all the years I touched someone with affection I've never had someone take exception. Maybe I'm lucky.

Last summer I was laying on the grass of the executive stand at Donnington.

I shouldn't have been on the grass. One of the management team come up behind me and grabbed my ID. I found her very rude it was a nice day and I wanted somewhere to relax. I was asked to move. I never kicked up a fuss just went up and had a beer and muttered "how rude"

 

[Bod ...]

I've got a name people sometimes ask about, which is fine. I would maybe ask someone where their name was from. There's usually some degree of link between a person and their ancestry/heritage, and it's interesting. Sad if there isn't.

Exactly what I do now.... most people are flattered that I show an interest.

I had it with a polish fella, he seemed offended that I took an interest on where he was from.
Arrogant moody prat.

I made my excuses and left him to his leak.

 

[JohnD]

Let's remember her words
"it was a bit of a blur. "

No, let's remember her actual words:

"The rest of the event is a blur"

 

[Bod ...]

No, let's remember her actual words:

"The rest of the event is a blur"

Is there film of the incident with the frail 83 year old.

 

[JohnD]

In her leopard skin top and teeth from some other animal I might be mistaken that her parents or parents parents may have been born elsewhere on this planet.

And since she is a British citizen, born in England, does her costume change her answer to the question "where are you from?"

 

[JohnD]

Is there film of the incident with the frail 83 year old.

Is there anything supporting your invented words?

 

[transam]

I had a Jason Smith ring me up on Monday asking me to renew my washing machine insurance

Don’t have any and never have ( scam)

I asked Jason where he was from as his Bengali ( ?) accent did not quite seem to go hand in hand with his name

He hung up

 

[Bod ...]

Is there anything supporting your invented words?

I'm taking you at your word that you know everything that was said.

 

[Bod ...]

And since she is a British citizen, born in England, does her costume change her answer to the question "where are you from?"

Working Sandhurst Road Hackney:

Some black fella watching the West Indies play England at Cricket.

I asked do you think you will beat us? I want England I'm English mate.
Whoops.
He never beat me up he never got narky.

I learnt a lesson that day.....

 

[transam]

"But where are you really from" is a thing racists often say to people who they think don't look like they belong here.

"Hackney" is not an answer they like.

If you are white, I'll wager nobody has ever said it to you.

Hmm I have on occasion asked people I have worked for over the years where they are from

people with a Germanic accent or what I consider to be a Germanic type accent ??? ( to date they are all white)

 

[JohnD]

In her leopard skin top and teeth from some other animal I might be mistaken that her parents or parents parents may have been born elsewhere on this planet.

"And what part of Africa do you come from?"

 

[diy_fun_uk]

As a person with dark skin, I've experienced this sort of encounter a few times in my life. Personally, I look on such encounters in two ways. Firstly, let's say someone asks me along the lines of 'where are you from?' and in my case I'd answer 'Fife, just north of Edinburgh.' If they then pursued the questions with something like 'yes but where are you originally from?' I'd simply reply with 'ah right, well my mum's from Scotland and my dad from India.' If that essentially brings an end to it and/or if the conversation then continues in what I deem to be a non racist manner e.g. 'oh India, I was there in the 80s for work, amazing country ...' blah blah blah, then fine. If however the conversation then takes a more unsavory path in a way I'd deem racist, that's of course a completely different matter.

I personally feel she could have dissipated the situation by simply replying 'my parents are originally from ...' which might have sparked quite an interesting conversation with the old bird.

I could reel off a number of analogies where it's simply better to try and dissipate situations where you're put on the spot. No, I'm not saying it's right for anyone to be very obviously targeted in an 'ist' way, however where possible, try to steer the conversation a more pleasant way and get on with your day.

I will however add this note, and it goes for all of us in different ways. If you're white and living in a predominantly white country, you do not know what it's like to be subject to racist stuff whether minor or major. Just as I, as a man, don't really know what it's like to be subject to regular sexist stuff whether minor or major. etc etc. We can have an opinion, however unless we live something we don't really know what it's like.

I can tell you this. If someone refers to me as a Pa*i, that hurts and offends me as much as you'd be hurt if someone referred to your partner/wife as 'that dirty effing s l u t' and not in a jokey way.

 

[Deleted member 174758]

If you are white, I'll wager nobody has ever said it to you.

Not completely true. When I was in California people used to ask me where I came from, or just assumed that because I don't speak RP, "fraffly" or Estuary that I was Australian.

How very dare they!

Race is a very emotive subject, and the way @diy_fun_uk deals with it (by saying whete his foreneras come from) is probably the best way.

I have two friends who are Afro-carribean and TBH I never know whether it is right to describe them as black, or anything else to other people. To one of them I am "the Fossil" whilst he is the "old Fart". It works for us.