Sauna

[chirpychippy]

I built this with my wife in our back garden from Jan 2024 to its completion mid 2024.

It was an expensive distraction. December 2023 I nearly lost my fight with depression or as I later learnt it was complex grief. Its a distressing story I won't share, other than I knew my only option to move forward was to face my past, I also knew the concilling process would be harrowing, but it was my only option to move forward.

The Summer House initially was a distraction but I hoped it would also make me feel good about myself again. It worked on both counts.

Phase Two - I want to build a Sauna but like this build I want to build it from scratch. I could buy a flat pack sauna but where is the sense of achievement in that!

Has anyone attempted such a feet?

We lost our Daughter she was Eight, I then lost my Dad, started drinking heavily, became very depressed and couldn't see the point in living, I was devastated.

But I had the right people around me to pick me back up.

Life is much better nowadays.

 

[motorbiking]

I did look into this some time back. You can get some log burning stoves designed for saunas. They are expansive to heat with electric and you need to know a few hours in advance when you want to use it. Easier to join a health club / gym.

 

[kingandy2nd]

I built this with my wife in our back garden from Jan 2024 to its completion mid 2024.

It was an expensive distraction. December 2023 I nearly lost my fight with depression or as I later learnt it was complex grief. Its a distressing story I won't share, other than I knew my only option to move forward was to face my past, I also knew the concilling process would be harrowing, but it was my only option to move forward.

The Summer House initially was a distraction but I hoped it would also make me feel good about myself again. It worked on both counts.

Phase Two - I want to build a Sauna but like this build I want to build it from scratch. I could buy a flat pack sauna but where is the sense of achievement in that!

Has anyone attempted such a feet?

We lost our Daughter she was Eight, I then lost my Dad, started drinking heavily, became very depressed and couldn't see the point in living, I was devastated.

But I had the right people around me to pick me back up.

Life is much better nowadays.

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Thanks for sharing.

Glad you’re in a better place now.

Looks like a great job you did there

 

[Elsa TLC]

Fantastic job.

Is it all up and functioning now?

 

[Mottie]

We lost our Daughter she was Eight, I then lost my Dad, started drinking heavily, became very depressed and couldn't see the point in living, I was devastated.

But I had the right people around me to pick me back up.

Glad to hear you are in a better place these days. Losing a child must be the worse thing that can happen to anyone. I don’t know how I would cope. It happened to my brother in law and it led to the break up of his marriage. He got divorced about 5 years after they lost their two year old. That was about 7 years ago. Dunno how the sister in law is getting on these days but he met someone else about 4 years ago and we are going to their wedding next Tuesday so things have eventually turned around for him.

 

[chirpychippy]

I did look into this some time back. You can get some log burning stoves designed for saunas. They are expansive to heat with electric and you need to know a few hours in advance when you want to use it. Easier to join a health club / gym.

Now you've said this i think I may scrap the idea and spend the money on a holiday

 

[chirpychippy]

Fantastic job.

Is it all up and functioning now?

I wasn't going to get away with not finishing it!!

Alot people on this forum helped me build it, especially the ground works, they probably have forgotten.

 

[morqthana]

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100% not having a go. Is that less than 15m²?

 

[chirpychippy]

Glad to hear you are in a better place these days. Losing a child must be the worse thing that can happen to anyone. I don’t know how I would cope. It happened to my brother in law and it led to the break up of his marriage. He got divorced about 5 years after they lost their two year old. That was about 7 years ago. Dunno how the sister in law is getting on these days but he met someone else about 4 years ago and we are going to their wedding next Tuesday so things have eventually turned around for him.

I can't think of anything worse, but not every marriage collapses as a consequence.

We still talk about Charlotte, that's her name, we were talking about her today when we were out with friends, granted it hurts, but i doubt that will ever stop.

I blindly thought i would eventually one day feel better and the suicidal thoughts would go. I was lucky, someone stopped me. The success of my business meant I could stop working and get urgent help, I was absolutely terrified at the thought I nearly took my own life.

So we built a Summer House together, I got the help i needed and stopped using alcohol to cope.

My wife and I are still together and still very much in love with one another. I owe her alot.

It's a happy ending.

 

[chirpychippy]

100% not having a go. Is that less than 15m²?

Maybe it is - Maybe it isn't!

 

[Elsa TLC]

I can't think of anything worse, but not every marriage collapses as a consequence.

We still talk about Charlotte, that's her name, we were talking about her today when we were out with friends, granted it hurts, but i doubt that will ever stop.

I blindly thought i would eventually one day feel better and the suicidal thoughts would go. I was lucky, someone stopped me. The success of my business meant I could stop working and get urgent help, I was absolutely terrified at the thought I nearly took my own life.

So we built a Summer House together, I got the help i needed and stopped using alcohol to cope.

My wife and I are still together and still very much in love with one another. I owe her alot.

It's a happy ending.

Thats the second time ive had tears in my eyes today.

Learned that an old friend died recently.

You made me smile as well as the tears.x

 

[chirpychippy]

Thats the second time ive had tears in my eyes today.

Learned that an old friend died recently.

You made me smile as well as the tears.x

I do apologise Elsa TLC and I'm sorry to learn about your friend.

It's just one person's experience whom lived to tell the tale.

People perceive "S" as a selfish act. It is an act off utter desperation, or better explained "a crisis of the mind" to explain it even better, i felt excitement at the prospect, I knew all the pain would stop and the relief of knowing this was the case, just made it more attractive and exciting.

One day I hope to be that person that says "are you ok" be a volunteer, I know more lives can be saved, I understand the crisis.

But for now I'm still healing.

Onwards & Upwards.

 

[morqthana]

I knew someone once who became a (part time) grief/bereavement counsellor following losing his wife at a young age, both to help others and to help himself.

 

[Elsa TLC]

I do apologise Elsa TLC and I'm sorry to learn about your friend.

It's just one person's experience whom lived to tell the tale.

People perceive "S" as a selfish act. It is an act off utter desperation, or better explained "a crisis of the mind" to explain it even better, i felt excitement at the prospect, I knew all the pain would stop and the relief of knowing this was the case, just made it more attractive and exciting.

One day I hope to be that person that says "are you ok" be a volunteer, I know more lives can be saved, I understand the crisis.

But for now I'm still healing.

Onwards & Upwards.

He wasn't a close friend and I haven't seen him for years.

It just got me when I was told. I think your bravery is amazing. Thst you and your wife are there for one another warms the heart.
Have you any other children?

 

[chirpychippy]

He wasn't a close friend and I haven't seen him for years.

It just got me when I was told. I think your bravery is amazing. Thst you and your wife are there for one another warms the heart.
Have you any other children?

I will answer your question Elsa but I am going to come off of this subject thereafter.

Yes in short, she is older, 28 to be exact, neither children are biologically mine. When I met their Mother whom I grew to love, her husband, their father had done a runner.

I knew my now wife wasn't with me for my money because I didnt have any.

So we built a future together and I did the best I could for all three of them. Sometime later our eldest daughter changed her surname by deed-pole to mine, she wishes I was her biological Dad she has told me so many times.

Charlotte had an incurable terminal illness.

Losing two people you love and adore in a short period of time isn't good for your mental health, nor is using alcohol as a crutch.