For future incidents you have to assume that everyone involved is of equally good deserving character. In that case, why should the 19 year old kid feel compelled to let the old woman have the last place on a lifeboat? Obviously it's completely wrong if there's a situation where big strong men are trampling over women and kids, which is probably why this women and children first business arose, and understandably so. I just don't think it should be so black and white as seems accepted.

