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****ty life

Seriously though, i tend to go for a walk most days. Not easy as i suffer with a bad lower back and a bad right knee...

No matter what problems you have, there is always someone worse off...

I used to have an acquaintance (I hesitate to call him a friend). He lived totally alone, in a rented, rambling, horribly dirty sort of bedsit, in an equally horrible part of the city. He was very dyslexic, but seemed to have a twisted idea, that his living situation was sort of normal - no proper washing facilities, limited cooking facilities, and absolutely filthy. Best you could say, was that he managed.

Last I heard, was that he'd moved to a place he had managed to buy, which he turned into a similar, horrible, disgusting mess of a place, and that both of his knees needed replacement. He had one done, had apparently moaned constantly about the care he had received in hospital, and how incompetent they were, awaiting the other being done. He had been allocated some sort of home help, but none would go near the place, because of the filth, smell, and constant complaints.
 
Give that club a go, and try some others. If we're honest, most men feel akward when it comes to meeting new people, it's not in our DNA. But there are lots of clubs out there which you can just drop in when you fancy it.

I joined a camera club, mostly men over 60 there to get out the house. Photography can be very addictive and keep your mind occupied for hours at an end, both in taking photos and editing them. Smartphone is OK for photography too.

Is there a Men's Shed near you? https://menssheds.org.uk/

Ramblers can be good, just walking, not much else. I tried for a while but they mostly walk during working hours.

Bowls clubs are always looking for new players. Gentle exercise, mild social - "ooh, good shot" etc. then cuppa tea and home again.

It is tough as we get older to stay socialable (and not get drawn into forum arguments all time!) but it's far less scary than first day at school, or first day on a new job.
 
sorry to hear of your situation; I went through a ****ty time around turning 50, coincidentally it was lower back problems too, slipped two discs at the same time and was in agony for 3 months, basically crawled around on the floor for 3 months, could not bear to be on my feet for more than 30 seconds, and absolutely could not sit down. All the pain and all the money worries with being self employed were difficult, jeez it was a fecking nightmre
very slowly got better over maybe the next 5 or 6 years (pilates was my big help) and then retired. Now 14 years on from my injury, mostly pain free, cycle 5000 mile a year, don't think I have been this fit since my 20s, and lifes great, love every second of it

so no matter how crap it gets, just hang in and stuff will get better
 
Have you watched Swimming With Men? I'm not suggesting you take up sychronised swimming, but its a good story that you will likely identify with.
 
Back been bad for 30 plus years. Tried many things. Still bad. It sucks. Plus, i get burning when sitting....

Tried swimming but they hate dogs in the pool!!!!!
 
What you need to do is always have things to look forward to. It doesn't have to be a big thing, it can be a very small thing, e.g. a podcast episode, a packet of crisps, watching a film etc. You need to set up a number of these things continually, so you can always think I just have to wait until x and then I can have x. This keeps you going. You must always have something to look forward to.

Then you need to make a list of all the things you need to do. Then you need to work out the next small step to take, to make progress on each of the items on your list. Focus on small steps, they can be really small things, but focus on taking action and maintaining momentum. You must always be working on items on your list, review it regularly/continually. Work out the next small step and take it. The trick is, continual small steps, which results in progress.
 
Biggest issue is where i am living...a right ****e hole....been trying to move out....all student accomodation and high rents..its so depressing guys.

I been looking for somewhere to buy but prices gone up and ****ty properties.....every day i look. I keep looking.....its a daily battle...

Thanks guys
 
Biggest issue is where i am living...a right ****e hole....been trying to move out....all student accomodation and high rents..its so depressing guys.

I been looking for somewhere to buy but prices gone up and ****ty properties.....every day i look. I keep looking.....its a daily battle...

Thanks guys

Have you thought about an older person's shared ownership property.
 
Looked at loads......nothing that suits. All student acc when i live....

Want to buy, no mortgage needed but again, nothing in price range..
Maybe buy in an area you can afford and use the rent to rent in an area you want to live in?

Probably an arse about face way of doing it lol....
 
Maybe buy in an area you can afford and use the rent to rent in an area you want to live in?

Probably an arse about face way of doing it lol....
Thing is, i want to stay near my 19yr old daughter. She is my life guys
 
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