Job done on Saturday. Here's how I got on, but first, many thanks to Terryplumb for his patient advice, and for also not judging me. (ideally we would get someone in, but in this rural area, it is hard to persuade someone. Yes I am sure someone will sell and fit a new boiler. But repairing one 13 yts old is not that enticing.)
Anyway. First I drained down and changed the valve that allows water in. It had been failing. I got away with a straight forward replacement, and used the same olive! Depth must be identical (are they standard depths?) because it is a nice tight fit. I know that ideally you cut the old olive off, but well you know!
I then repressurised the EV with a hand pump meant for bikes/cars. I am convinced there was an issue as it did feel quite empty, I then started to get a resistance and filled to a suitable pressure.
Next I put some inhibitor in a radiator (the one I had used to drain). Despite watching videos this did not go well, and I have vowed never again to buy the more expensive squirty ones.
In the end I thought I may as well take a radiator off and pour some normal type in manually. I locked the one side, turned radiator sideways and poured it in. Then I bunged up where I poured (with polythene so it didn't tear).
It was then just a case of whipping out the bung quickly before shoving into pipe. I hardly lost any. One day someone can show me how to use the fancy ones, but for now I am happier just getting the stuff in manually.
Finally I repressurised with mains water. Then have done several rounds of bleeding, as I find one round often doesn't find all the air
It's working OK and pressure is a lot more stable. Water is on 1bar and it moves up to about 1.5 possibly more but not as erratic as before.
What I haven't solved (and the original title! ) is things still feel very / too hot.
There's something failing. However I suspect it will be too expensive for an expert to diagnose or even obtain the part. Last Feb when diverter valve was changed (by an engineer) he told me Biasi was considered cheap and he gave no guarantees that he could leave us with a working boiler, so we took a gamble, and got another 11months out of it.
I'm pleased that I've learnt about EVs. Maybe I have extended the life a little. At present we have a working boiler. It isn't on all the time like an old folks home because of bills /environment and Russia. We tend to have thermostat at 18 max which makes me laugh when consumer programs recommend turning *down* to 20. Maybe it wouldn't last long under heavier conditions, but for us it's doing its job.
Thanks.