Sterose wrote
I'm sure oilman meant not to 'bully' her away.
Thanks sterose, I certainly didn't. My first post on this thread was to get a re-write that conveyed what the writer was trying to say. In shazzy32's post there is one fullstop (almost hidden), and one exclaimation mark. This means it is easy to read it as something other than shazzy32 intended, which wouldn't be much use as a different problem might be answered. I could spend ages working it all out, but just as people like it when we put some effort into giving constructive answers, we like it when people make it easier for us to understand the question.
A useful way to do this is keep the sentences short. This helps a lot.
Putting each seperate point on a new line also makes it stand out.
You don't have to write the query like this at first, just write as you think. Once it is written down then go over it and edit it as if you were editing some one elses writing. This is not the only way to write of course, but it can make things a bit clearer.
My second post was just pointing out the limits of help from using the spelling checker which would allow you write any old garbage and pass it as correct.
Eye suggest ewe get of you're hoarse joker, as it's lame.