So i had a quick read as a sanity check on my reasoning and came across this article which is from a 'respectable' tabloid in this area. Please read first.
"As a black woman i hate the term 'people of colour'
https://www.independent.co.uk/voice...ce-coachella-black-lives-matter-a8316561.html
Now what i find most perplexing is the common retort from 'people of colour' 'you don't know what it's like' yet refuse to accept that too goes both ways. 'You don't know what it's like to be 'white' if you're arguing here already you're not being impartial.
We have an increasing stigma attached to White and racism. Black pride, white shame. (thats a slight exaggeration but there's an undertone of such in todays society)
Years ago in the UK (we are not american!), it seemed white people would refer to black people as 'coloured' for no other reason than being made uncomfortable pointing out they were black/brown etc, it was deemed 'polite' to refer to them as such instead of saying that black/brown/yellow person whatever. Right or wrong that was an attempt at decency.
In the article above the lady points out she puts up her hand to proclaim 'its ok it's me i am black' as the white people understandably due to the racial minority rhetoric of feeling excluded or discriminated, consciously wish to refer to the lady in an inclusive way and feel due to the sensitivities saying 'that black woman there' is calling out her difference ie not being inclusive ('
we are all the same our skin colour should not be a factor') they attempt to refer to her anything other than her skin colour.
It seems ok for her the black lady to call out she's black but not for white people to point out she's black? We are supposed to be unquestionably inclusive but when she feels it's right be exclusive.
If in a room of people i would have no reservation at all saying 'over there that's Rita the indian or asian lady' But for whatever reason a slight reservation but i would say 'Rita over there the black lady' i still could have potential to feel it's not my position as 'white in appearance' to point out as such. Why do i feel absolutely no issue pointing out the indian lady. But not the black? Why is it the Asian communities in the UK don't seem to have any issues?
Cliche alert i have friends of all colours and even then i wouldn't say checkout 'X' he's the black guy there and believe me we are close enough to share good banter but i just wouldn't point him out id refer to his tshirt glasses or whatever. If he then corrected me and said 'Fest fest.. tut i AM the black guy' i would eat my shorts in amazement, i guess he might 'proclaim his colour' if he was in a room of people who he didn't like. Then you ask why doesn't he like them? Their colour? Their demeanour?
Who is creating and reinforcing this stigma? I completely agree racism has no place in ANY race. Sure ive witnessed many forms. My early experiences of racism were from blacks abusing me for appearing white.
Can someone explain above to me please, lets not approach it from you're wrong because id prefer constructive honest responses, im trying to explore what is going on beneath the covers here.
Edit to add - personally i don't agree 'of colour' 'or coloured' is the correct reference per se as technically white and black are shades. In a colour chart black and white are also apparent so in that instance 'we are all colours'. I don't feel right when the message of equality is requested yet 'of colour' has been appropriated. Has 'my history' removed my right to feel uncomfortable with that?