Mars And Venus

[securespark]

Not about the planets, but the differences between men and women, specifically regarding how they communicate with each other in a relationship.
I have to start with an example:

Mrs S will say something like, "There's an X on the floor there."

Now, to me, that is a statement. But what she was actually asking me was, "Can you pick that X up?" So I would say, why didn't you ask that then?

To her, it's obvious that's what she is asking, but not to me. I say to her, if you would like me to do something, ask me to do whatever it is.

I call it being literal, she thinks (not being unkind) that I'm a little autistic, as autistic people take things very literally.

Do you have similar communication problems?

 

[Knave of Hearts]

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Do you have similar communication problems?

Does it include misunderstandings in here?


Oooh you're such a shye stirrer.

 

[motorbiking]

Not about the planets, but the differences between men and women, specifically regarding how they communicate with each other in a relationship.
I have to start with an example:

Mrs S will say something like, "There's an X on the floor there."

Now, to me, that is a statement. But what she was actually asking me was, "Can you pick that X up?" So I would say, why didn't you ask that then?

To her, it's obvious that's what she is asking, but not to me. I say to her, if you would like me to do something, ask me to do whatever it is.

I call it being literal, she thinks (not being unkind) that I'm a little autistic, as autistic people take things very literally.

Do you have similar communication problems?

My favourite is the rule for who must move to be heard.

If the woman says something from another room it is the man who must move to listen.
If the man says something from another room, it is them who must move to be heard.

However, it is not a universal rule. Simply add softly -oh FFS or other displeasing commentary, and you are instantly heard.

 

[noseall]

Do you have similar communication problems?

Yes.

If I ask my missus a question, she'll often respond with a 'one step ahead' answer, but not the answer to the question I asked. For example, I might ask her if she has locked the front door to which she may reply with something like 'your front door key is where you left it in the car....' Or 'would you like a cup of tea' and she'd say, 'the kettle has just boiled'. I end up asking her if that is a yes or no to the tea.

 

[Ivor Windybottom]

Yes.

If I ask my missus a question, she'll often respond with a 'one step ahead' answer, but not the answer to the question I asked. For example, I might ask her if she has locked the front door to which she may reply with something like 'your front door key is where you left it in the car....' Or 'would you like a cup of tea' and she'd say, 'the kettle has just boiled'. I end up asking her if that is a yes or no to the tea.

Glad to hear it's not just us! Always trying to predict where the conversation might be heading and why I need to know what I'm asking rather than just answering the bloody question!

I've told her she'd be good under interrogation as she never gives a straight answer to anything.

 

[securespark]

Mrs S will ask, "Can you boil the kettle?", so after a jokey, "Yes, I'm a big boy now and I'm trusted with hot things.", I boil the kettle.

5 minutes later, she's asking for her cup of tea.

If you wanted me to make a cup of tea, why didn't you ask for that?
You only asked me to boil the kettle!

Maybe I am being too literal...

 

[Harry Bloomfield]

My favourite is the rule for who must move to be heard.

Yep, Av does that. TV on in living room, she wanders out of the room, still talking to me, she ends up in kitchen, still talking, and seems to have strange idea that her words can still be heard by me, still in the living room. She calls me 'maybe a bit deaf'.

'A bit deaf' I am not, I hear cars ticking over, five doors away, I hear quite music from next door. When I ask her she can hear it, she never hears a thing.

I'll be obviously concentrating, tapping away on the laptop, she speaks, and due to my concentration ignore her until I have finished the bit I'm doing, then turn to her and ask her to repeat. 'You're deaf, you don't hear a word I say'. Nope, I just concentrate on one thing at a time!

 

[fixitflav]

Not about the planets, but the differences between men and women, specifically regarding how they communicate with each other in a relationship.
I have to start with an example:

Do you have similar communication problems?

Yes, if I asked my ex something she would yell "How the hell would I know that" or similar. I had to explain that when I asked a questiion it didn't, usually, mean I expected her her to know, much less that I thought she "ought" to know, and I didn't want to explain that every time. Eventually she got it and calmed down.

 

[pete01]

 

[Highway Man]

I would have said exactly the same myself.