I called the guy back, and he came in 10 minutes, lives just down the road..reset, and rebooted the boiler, put the heating on, and guess what? NO LEAKS! yeah for the 10 minutes he was here.
So ran the CH, to dry clothes, as the bloody washing machine seems to have stopped drying clothes too (thats directly under the boiler, that spent its water all over it), and CH worked fine. Kept monitoring heating/pressure, fine.
Ran taps and they were air blocked, you know no water, then a gush, and spluttering..thought that might affect pressure..but no.
Turned boiler off at the front, to be safe; NOW I HAVE ANOTHER FLOOD!!!!!!!! even with boiler off.
Is it possible that the diaphramn was fitted the wrong way round? I had a thermostat in a car that was faulty, and that caused a pressure overload, and blew off the bottom rad hose, and that seems to be the case here, as the diaphramn is basicilly a stat..
But when the system is operating when switched off? Has the flow switch not been reattached correctly? or some other error?
pedantic vindictive man - I have a Toyota! it's throttle is fine, it's wired. What Toyota did was move to drive-by-wire, and the pot gets worn at it's outer edges, like your fuel gauge reads fine for 3/4 then gets fast for the last 1/4 ? And blame old Bill Gates for making Windows, he designed a new IP protocol, that defied the origional supported spec (that Apple still use), so easy to hack. But in a year or two, we run out of IP addresses, so a new system will be installed. Maybe called the 'cloud'. All programs on your computer are accessed remotely.
Andygasman - how to sort the leak..it don't leak when the engineer is here. Strip it myself, and see? I suspect it's leaking from the area that the engineer stripped - ie the diaphramn area of the 3 way valve. Now why would that leak at random, and start the boiler running of its own accord.