Moving

[Diver Fred]

About to put our (my) house up for sale - I've owned it 45 years in my home village. I'm really in and going through 2 minds on are we doing the right thing by moving. Head says 'Yes' - solves our parking problems and some space issues. Heart says 'No' - moving away from home area and what family we have and some friends.

Do we stay in the home area or move away completely. So difficult!

 

[diy_fun_uk]

How far are you moving away?
How frequently do you see the family and friends you reference?
How much less frequently are you likely to see them if you move? And how much will that bother you?
How long is the drive / public transport journey for them to visit or vice versa?
How much does the parking issue annoy you on a scale of 1-10?
How much does the space issue frustrate you on a scale of 1-10?
How old are you? When you reach your dotage, will it be a potential issue living further away from said family and friends?
What are the upsides of the place you're maybe moving to? Do these outweigh any downsides of moving?

These are the sort of questions I'd be asking myself if in that scenario.

 

[Diver Fred]

Well the parking issue came up again today - it really is insurmountable we have concluded. It's a shared access, not a shared drive, across a public footpath. I returned home to find neighbours have visitors/BBQ party, access blocked and one of their visitors cars on our hard standing. The highways people won't help.

As for where we will go :- we have found a property or to closer to the wife's family but also a couple of properties close to our best mates but miles from the family. To be honest in the end I think the decision will be down to a few factors - Public transport close by (and the continual access to such), doctors, dentists and opticians.
Quality of hospitals - both wife and I have had parents go through one particular hospital and both have not had good outcomes from the treatment of elderly in that one hospital.

 

[Fred Blogs]

I moved from 30 years in Yorkshire back to Wales where I was born and where my family are. Worse decision of my life.

 

[fillyboy]

I moved from 30 years in Yorkshire back to Wales where I was born and where my family are. Worse decision of my life.

Why? network of friends built up over 30 years? facilities?

 

[motorbiking]

House prices are still falling and will likely fall this year. You probably wont get a great price for your house.

Parking problems can be solved. I had a rolling problem with a chap parking on my land who is convinced it's "unregistered land". In the end lockable posts solved the problem.

 

[StephenStephen]

Personally I'd think it likely to be cheaper and easier to solve the parking problem than all the expense and stress of moving.
You clearly like being where you are.

So here's a thought experiment - do a rough calculation of all the costs of moving, then ask yourself: If I had that amount of money to throw at the parking problem, what creative solutions could I come up with?

Some cheap and easy ideas that come to mind are - talk with your neighbours - what ideas might you come up with together? Would it be helpful to let each other know when you're having a social gathering? Do you and your neighbours have a clear shared understanding of who owns what and what the permissions are? Can you put in some clear informative signage? Mark out your parking space? Is there a quid pro quo - is there anything your neighbours might like from you that would encourage them to keep their visitors from blocking your access?

...and be realistic about the scale of the problem - how often do you come home find there's no problem with access or parking that day?

 

[gas112]

just remember in theory you have to tell any potential buyers any issues with neighbours so try not to escalate anything with them .

 

[motorbiking]

A lockable post is a lot cheaper than estate agent fees, stamp duty, solicitors etc.

 

[pete01]

I wonder what Driver Fred did?

 

[motorbiking]

Hopefully he didn't get bullied in to leaving his home.

 

[MNW67]

I wonder what Driver Fred did?

Diver!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[pete01]

Diver!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh yeah

 

[Diver Fred]

Personally I'd think it likely to be cheaper and easier to solve the parking problem than all the expense and stress of moving.
You clearly like being where you are.

So here's a thought experiment - do a rough calculation of all the costs of moving, then ask yourself: If I had that amount of money to throw at the parking problem, what creative solutions could I come up with?

Some cheap and easy ideas that come to mind are - talk with your neighbours - what ideas might you come up with together? Would it be helpful to let each other know when you're having a social gathering? Do you and your neighbours have a clear shared understanding of who owns what and what the permissions are? Can you put in some clear informative signage? Mark out your parking space? Is there a quid pro quo - is there anything your neighbours might like from you that would encourage them to keep their visitors from blocking your access?

...and be realistic about the scale of the problem - how often do you come home find there's no problem with access or parking that day?

As much as I/we like living where we are we have also considered our old age - we live in a village that has a pub and a butchers; limited public transport - bus route between 2 towns 4 times a day and a 'works' bus that leaves before 7AM and returns at 6PM. Taxis are just about possible during the day, unaffordable in the evenings.
We have done the financial considerations before we made the final decision to sell up and move and we can afford to move.
We don't have children of our own and my ex-step kids (I didn't make any legal connection with them) aren't particularly happy with me & the wife doesn't want to develop a relationship with them.
As for the PIA neighbours it has only worsened as we have new neighbours on the other side who also now met the wrath of the person who is causing wife and I parking problems - the new comers are fighting back by being 'difficult' with were they park their vehicles as they have to park on the road.

I wonder what Driver Fred did?

Well after 20 weeks, 1 'hobby' viewing & 1 serious viewing and lack of information and support from the estate agents we have decided to take the property off the market on 1st Sept to review the whole position.

 

[motorbiking]

I have a problem with neighbours parking on my Land at a property I AirBnB. One guy who lives in the next street claimed he'd been parking there 20 years and its unregistered land. It isn't. Another time I had a guest complain that someone had parked in their parking space. My problem is I am only there a couple of times a month and my rogue neighbours can get away with it. The main street is permit parking and the cheeky f*cks can save themselves some cash..

With the guy parking from the next street, I installed lockable parking posts which has seen him off. With the neighbour who borrows my parking space I had a friendly conversation and told him to text me if he wanted to use it and if it wasn't in use I'd let him know. That has worked out fine. I wonder if you could support your new neighbour in the same way to occupy the space when not needed by you?