Things you wished you'd done with your kids..

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Anobium, i know it must hurt seriously, but, this is what we have to put up with when you love.

My dad died 3 yrs ago, local, but he beat us as kids, when he died, i did'nt feel a thing, Now, i think that's been a good thing, i just carried on with my life.

Now i have my own family, very attached to each other, i know this pain will come, they say we live in hell.
 
Er indoors would like to add something with regard to the thread title.

"taken more pictures".

As we all take them when young, but as they are getting older the frequency of taking pictures has decreased considerably.

So now we are going to get a nice new decent digi camera to capture them.
Thats assuming they ever come off the computers to enable us to get a frontal shot :D
 
anobium said:
My eldest son passed away 3 weeks ago and I would give up everything I own just to have him back.
He was relatively young and had been ill for a long time but we still had good times and we have wonderful memories.
I truly feel sorry for those who do not appreciate their children, don't leave it to late or you may regret it.
When it comes down to it at the end of the day all your material things count for nothing when you lose a child.
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Did a job today where a plumber has left a pensioner with no toilet or shower for 3 weeks. His daughter of 51 has 6 months. Last night when he told me he got choked up and so did I.
 
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I know this thread has been necro'd already, but I just wanted to say that yes, kids are blinking hard work and they are a drain on your resources! Basically, if you did a balance sheet and added up what they would cost you, you'd never have them!

BUT

Seeing my three boys now, I am incredibly proud of them.

The eldest has finished Uni with Firsts in everything and is doing a Post Grad as a financial advisor. He is about to take the last of the first batch of 6 exams.

The middle lad went from 6th form college into an IT apprenticeship where he is very happy.

The youngest lad (rugby mad one) went to NZ at the end of school to help coach kids at a school on the North Island for just under a year. He's now at Uni, but they have currently broken up. He's getting into stage setting/ roadie work and being a runner and he's looking at training to be an Assistant Director. He's been all over the place in the UK and Europe and built sets for all sorts.
 
#insertTheWorld'sSmallestViolin

I was kicked out of family home back in December, after being his stepdad for 26 years, I am being ghosted by my stepson (he moved out in 2018). Previously he would only contact me when he needed a favour. I don't have a problem with that... but I had been part of his life since he was 4. When he was 18 we the "urgent" call to go to the hospital because his father had been admitted. The reality was that his father had already had massive cardiac arrest. Once my stepson started to cry, I too cried, in part because I could not take away his pain.

I am not a biological parent. It might be the case that I cannot understand unconditional love, but I do love him to bits.

His mum and I never had any arguments or any thing like (we grew apart and she made me homeless from the property that we paid the mortgage for) . I totally get that he is in her corner, and I would be disappointed if he wasn't. They speak most days.

I miss him. I am proud of the person that he has become. I don't expect a phone call until he needs me to renew my Office 365 subscription

Sorry- endOfFeeelingSorryForMyself
 
opps said:
#insertTheWorld'sSmallestViolin

I was kicked out of family home back in December, after being his stepdad for 26 years, I am being ghosted by my stepson (he moved out in 2018). Previously he would only contact me when he needed a favour. I don't have a problem with that... but I had been part of his life since he was 4. When he was 18 we the "urgent" call to go to the hospital because his father had been admitted. The reality was that his father had already had massive cardiac arrest. Once my stepson started to cry, I too cried, in part because I could not take away his pain.

I am not a biological parent. It might be the case that I cannot understand unconditional love, but I do love him to bits.

His mum and I never had any arguments or any thing like (we grew apart and she made me homeless from the property that we paid the mortgage for) . I totally get that he is in her corner, and I would be disappointed if he wasn't. They speak most days.

I miss him. I am proud of the person that he has become. I don't expect a phone call until he needs me to renew my Office 365 subscription

Sorry- endOfFeeelingSorryForMyself
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Chin up, Opps.
if/ when he comes round he'll be a better man for it.

A friend split with his wife recently. Their two sons split also, one with the Father, and one with the Mother. The two halves of the family don't talk anymore.
 
It's sad.

Mum came round the other day. Told me a story about an elderly father who died and all the "kids" could do was argue about the estate.

All through my life, I've seen similar stories.

Went to the funeral of my great Aunt years ago. Mum and me were Invited back for a cup of tea to her kids place (one son, one daughter).

As soon as we sat down, they started bickering.

Give me strength.

I'm not going to do that. Money's important and all that, but you don't want to go falling out with people over it.

Life's too short.
 
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