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And that is my point. It's down to how we define 'knowing' someone. We 'know' people on so many levels. We speak to and 'know' the postman but we don't really 'know' him. We speak to and 'know' the local shopkeeper but we don't really 'know' him/her, I 'know' you, we have a 'relationship' on here and I would be saddened if something were to happen to you but we don't really 'know' each other.But that is different from someone I didn't know. I 'knew' Alistair and I talked via the keyboard 2 hours before it happened. I didn't know Lady Di - and thus had no 'grief' for her.
I didn't know the drug crazed Houston either.
We're all human, we know what it's like to lose someone. We know that death is final, final as in, we can't see, speak, communicate with that person again (not in this life anyway... for those that believe). I didn't know anything or indeed even know of the existence of the 6 year old boy and his grandmother who both drowned in the pond ( news story here ), but that doesn't mean I don't feel sadness for the poor little soul, his grandmother and their family. They must be heartbroken. Thinking 'if only'. It's a basic human trait to feel compassion, emotion for others and expressing those thoughts and feelings isn't something that should be attacked. It can be a means of releasing ones fears, negative emotions, thoughts, feelings etc. If you or anyone else doesn't see/feel the need to express an emotion that's fine but some people do and want to. It may be that people who criticise the outpouring of emotion are themselves actually outpouring an emotion. Psychology is a very complex thing.