You really need to stop trying different connections hoping to find the right one by chance - electrics by trial and error is a bad idea. If you haven't damaged your switches by now with all these short-circuits then you will soon.Any other options I might try?
You can opt for Plan A, or Plan B.
PLAN A:
- Learn how lighting circuits are wired.
- Get a multimeter and learn how to use it.
- Identify which conductors are which at the switches and the light positions.
- Check for voltage present, circuit continuity, switches working etc.
- Connect everything up properly.
- Get an electrician.