A fathers Letter to his grown children........

[gasbanni]

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/ukn...naval-officers-email-to-children-in-full.html


Right or wrong ? But the pearler about copulation driven decision making,

Also reads like he's concerned about the life of his grandkids and the effect on his wife.

 

[snico]

Be interesting to see what the occupations /careers his children have.

 

[conny]

I bet there are many other parents who feel the same about their off-spring.

 

[chapeau]

Let's now hope the children have their say about daddy and it's published in full. Sit back and watch the entertainment.

 

[EddieM]

I bet there are many other parents who feel the same about their off-spring.

Yeah mine

 

[Stivino]

I think that's the letter that was discussed on the Jeremy Vine show last week.

 

[dhutch]

Let's now hope the children have their say about daddy and it's published in full. Sit back and watch the entertainment.

Reply from daughter number one, aged 40, on there already....

All seems a bit of a mess, and proberbly ort not have been published publicly, but they we go, life goes on!


Daniel

 

[AronSearle]

Who sends this stuff to public papers?

My guess, dad wrote this letter to them, they then thought they could make a buck selling it to the papers.

 

[bhm1712]

At the end of the day though, Children are not there to brag about to your mates so although i partly agree with his views and sentiments about copulation driven decisions and the effects on the children, i dont think really its got anything to do with him whether they are doing jobs which he considers not good enough to tell his well to do mates about. Children are not Trophies!

 

[kjacko]

Lol, i loved the letter.
A little harsh in places i guess and i understand that once adults they are free to live their lives as they see fit.
However, he is simply stating his opinion on their downfalls. He is not responsible for them so is not cutting off any benefits so to speak. So they can freely ignore him if they want.
He's ranting because it 'sounds like' him and thier mother gave them the best starts in life, but they have pretty much wasted it.
He's also a lifelong military man and expects order, not chaos and car crash living.

Fascinating.

 

[conny]

I bet there are many other parents who feel the same about their off-spring.

Yeah mine

See Diane for sympathy Ed.
You certainly won't get any here!

 

[dhutch]

He's ranting because it 'sounds like' him and thier mother gave them the best starts in life, but they have pretty much wasted it.
He's also a lifelong military man and expects order, not chaos and car crash living.

(my bold) That is quite clearly the case. However whether he gave them the best start is I would suggest, debatable. Forking out for private schooling is not necerally conducive to a good upbringing, nor the only thing a good father does.

Im 25, so speaking with only that many years of experience, but said bloke does come across as a bit of a fool.


Daniel

 

[kjacko]

yeah, i agree, that's why i said 'sound like'.
You still got to treat your kids with love and kindness and instil a sense of self-worth in them.
It's entirely possible he was an overbearing whipcracker where nothing they did would ever be good enough....unless they had enlisted.

Still, a good read though.

 

[EddieM]

I bet there are many other parents who feel the same about their off-spring.

Yeah mine

See Diane for sympathy Ed.
You certainly won't get any here!

Not looking for any, but I'd imagine they despair of me

 

[Space cat]

It's entirely possible he was an overbearing whipcracker where nothing they did would ever be good enough....unless they had enlisted.

It's also possible that he was conspicuous by his absence for extended periods. Maybe somebody in the know can confirm this (or not) but I would think you don't get to be a Royal Navy officer without spending a lot of time at sea.

At the end of the day though, Children are not there to brag about to your mates --

Absolutely right!

And finally, this:

None of these decisions were made with any pretence to ask for our advice.

In each case we have been expected to acquiesce with mostly hasty, but always in our view, badly judged decisions. None of you has done yourself, or given to us, the basic courtesy to ask us what we think while there was still time finally to think things through.

says a lot. I can almost hear him say it:

"There are only two ways: my way and the wrong way."

Addendum:

We are seeing the miserable death throes of the fourth of your collective marriages at the same time we see the advent of a fifth.

If, as seems reasonable, not all four are down to his son, I wonder if he ever realized the extent to which our ability to form a fully-functional sexual relationship depends upon our experience (or lack thereof) of our opposite sex parent.