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I would suggest that chronic back pain is not helping. Pain is hard to cope with. Perhaps try 10-15 minutes of gentle stretching every day and see how that helps. You wont want to do it, it will be uncomfortable. I divorced my ex a few years ago. Nobody is at fault for divorce, sometimes two people don't have a strong enough connection to stay together. You need to move on, do not blame yourself and don't eat the Regretti Spaghetti.
You’ve taken the first step by just talking about it on here. Have you tried talking with professionals? What about discussing your mental and physical issues with your doctor as a first step? Maybe they can refer you to somewhere. Please remember it’s not all bad - you have a daughter that loves you and you still get on with your ex and that’s more than a lot of people have.
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PM me any time mate, I am very experienced in these type of feelings. I can give you an awful lot of pointers and everything gets better mate.
Fair play to you for opening up.
Easier said than done I know, but if you can’t change your situation…then change yourself.
As others have said, get outside or find something new to do. There’s lots of things that go on that you can join in with, getting there for the first time and going into a new room/venue/club with strangers is the scariest step. I’ve found a new social circle and a really good new friend through joining a badminton club last summer. Doesn’t have to be badminton of course, insert whatever activity/interest you have.
And try and spend less time online…this is not a healthy place to be.
Best wishes
There is always light at the end of the tunnel mate
I had years of a close family member suffering from serious mental health issues, it drove me to despair at times, and in a way i too became mentally affected, i would sometimes just sit and cry (not very manly for a brickie) because i felt so powerless to help them and also blamed myself, i thought it would never end, but gradually over time with love hard work, and help from some charities and family they slowly got better, and this person now leads a normal working life, going on holidays/gym etc with no medication, and i'm also back to normal, and all it took to cure me was to see them smile.
Do as others have said, join local clubs, try to get out as much as you can and exercise and eat well, have targets to aim for each day even small ones, things will get better Koolpc, your Daughter will be a big help just being around, just keep Woofing
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Real men cry mate, idiots don't. Plus the women love to see a sensitive side.There is always light at the end of the tunnel mate
I had years of a close family member suffering from serious mental health issues, it drove me to despair at times, and in a way i too became mentally affected, i would sometimes just sit and cry (not very manly for a brickie) because i felt so powerless to help them and also blamed myself, i thought it would never end, but gradually over time with love hard work, and help from some charities and family they slowly got better, and this person now leads a normal working life, going on holidays/gym etc with no medication, and i'm also back to normal, and all it took to cure me was to see them smile.
Do as others have said, join local clubs, try to get out as much as you can and exercise and eat well, have targets to aim for each day even small ones, things will get better Koolpc, your Daughter will be a big help just being around, just keep Woofing
With health problems and age, are you eligible for any rented social housing and/or shared ownership schemes.
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Sorry to hear this Koolpc. The best thing I can suggest is that you find something to occupy your time so that your thoughts don't spiral out of control. Take up a musical instrument!
Have hope, trust in God, be kind to people, do things that make you happy.
Have hope, trust in God, be kind to people, do things that make you happy.
Woof, woof!
Glass half full! You are only 61....
2016, my partner passed away, after decades of ill health, leaving me totally alone. She had always dealt with, and organised absolutely everything, leaving me free to just on with work. I had no financial worries, but nonetheless, I was still very worried. I really didn't fancy spending the rest of my life alone, so I went on a dating site. Three bad, unreliable relationships, later, I've ended up with Avril.
Get on a dating site, find yourself a good, loyal, lasting relationship.
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Guys, appreciate your posts, your concerns. I really do. You are a great group of guys, even those that i curse and argue against. No offence meant guys. None at all.
We all have our own opinions. I respected YOU ALL....every one of you...
Thank u for you kind words.
I been through so much over the last 8 years... Divorce, my own fault but, me and ex are so close. Good friends. Thank God......we have a superb daughter, my life, my heartbeat.....
I guess my biggest issue is where i am living. Totally horrible. Trying to find another place. Very difficutlt.
Plus health issues. Really bad lower back plus anxiety and depression......plus living in a ****ey place.........
Many times i have wanted to end it all....i wont though....
I try to have a bit of banter on here...
Life is ****ee....its not easy guys......
I hope that things will change..
Thanks guys for your kindness.....
You are all a great group of guys...
We all have our own opinions. I respected YOU ALL....every one of you...
Thank u for you kind words.
I been through so much over the last 8 years... Divorce, my own fault but, me and ex are so close. Good friends. Thank God......we have a superb daughter, my life, my heartbeat.....
I guess my biggest issue is where i am living. Totally horrible. Trying to find another place. Very difficutlt.
Plus health issues. Really bad lower back plus anxiety and depression......plus living in a ****ey place.........
Many times i have wanted to end it all....i wont though....
I try to have a bit of banter on here...
Life is ****ee....its not easy guys......
I hope that things will change..
Thanks guys for your kindness.....
You are all a great group of guys...
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To build on what others have said.
Cold water swimming is absolutely brilliant for boosting your mood and your immune system. Have a look online.
Join a club and you can be safe as well have a social side to it as well.
I'm sorry you have so many issues. It can really get on top of you.
My GP told me the biggest cause of depression is isolation, so it's so important to get out and about and keep active and keep in contact with people.
It's fantastic that you have such a good relationship with your daughter and your ex.
Build on those!
Are you still working? Are you managing physically and mentally? If you have disabilities, your employer should make "reasonable adjustments" to make it easier for you to manage, under the Equality Act 2010.
If not working, (or even if you are), there could be benefits you are entitled to claim (like PIP, which is not means tested) or Employment and Support Allowance (ESA).
I'm not going to bang on about me, because this is about you, but I've had issues through my life, I needed counselling after my ex wife was murdered by her boyfriend and I had to give up work due to a mass of physical conditions that hit me on top of my long-standing Cerebral Palsy.
But I'm married again and have three amazing lads.
What I'm trying to say is that things will get better.
Eat as well as you can afford.
Keep well hydrated (water!).
Join clubs, meet people.
Keep active.
Do more with your daughter.
Get help at work if you need it.
Look into benefits.
I can't see your 20 on my phone. If you're anywhere near Stockport, we could meet up.
If you want somebody to chat to, you can WhatsApp me. My number is in my profile.
All the best, matey.
Cold water swimming is absolutely brilliant for boosting your mood and your immune system. Have a look online.
Join a club and you can be safe as well have a social side to it as well.
I'm sorry you have so many issues. It can really get on top of you.
My GP told me the biggest cause of depression is isolation, so it's so important to get out and about and keep active and keep in contact with people.
It's fantastic that you have such a good relationship with your daughter and your ex.
Build on those!
Are you still working? Are you managing physically and mentally? If you have disabilities, your employer should make "reasonable adjustments" to make it easier for you to manage, under the Equality Act 2010.
If not working, (or even if you are), there could be benefits you are entitled to claim (like PIP, which is not means tested) or Employment and Support Allowance (ESA).
I'm not going to bang on about me, because this is about you, but I've had issues through my life, I needed counselling after my ex wife was murdered by her boyfriend and I had to give up work due to a mass of physical conditions that hit me on top of my long-standing Cerebral Palsy.
But I'm married again and have three amazing lads.
What I'm trying to say is that things will get better.
Eat as well as you can afford.
Keep well hydrated (water!).
Join clubs, meet people.
Keep active.
Do more with your daughter.
Get help at work if you need it.
Look into benefits.
I can't see your 20 on my phone. If you're anywhere near Stockport, we could meet up.
If you want somebody to chat to, you can WhatsApp me. My number is in my profile.
All the best, matey.
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I think I am more special to you tbh, but I must admit some good advice has been given. Lots of help out there mate if you know where to find it. I woke up most mornings a while ago saying to myself "oh f***k I am still here, I wished I wasn't but now years later I love my life and thank god I survived but you need to put dark thoughts away by either professional help or by keeping active and looking at the positives.
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