So really the relationship is very much 50/50 though she struggles to admit that until it's argument time and she thinks about it properly otherwise she generally feels she's hard done by. I like her going to her friends aswell and they moan about how there partners litteraly don't lift a finger for anything, always helps to put me in a good light.
She organises our shopping needs, shops - usually walking there and back, with an occasional lift from me in the car when she needs an heavier shop, does much of the food prep ready for cooking, I cook during the week, as she works in the afternoon. She claims not to sleep much and takes the dog out at silly o'clock for a walk, maybe 5am, then again after dinner and does the washing, or rather the washing machine does it for her. She tends not to clean much, I do more than her and keep everything functioning.
I deal with all of the regular bills (and she spends much of what is left in the account too). We both transfer regular amounts into one of my accounts, for which I gave her a card to pay for the shopping and I have the card on my phone too, it also pays all the regular bills. So she is completely isolated from any financial problems, while ever she puts her contribution in.
Life was certainly much easier for me, with my first partner - she took all responsibility for dealing with the bills, running the house, cooking and etc. - I just handed her money and could concentrate on my job. So it was something of a shock to my system, having to suddenly have to pick so many things up, many of which I had not had to do for years, when she passed away.
