Well done John, you've worked it out at last. We didn't vote for one of the four options, we voted to leave, and then trusted the idiots that govern us to get the best deal they can - which I'm not sure they will, but the "quiters" as you put it, will deal with the fall out, whilst the bemoaner are just annoyed that they didn't get what they wanted.
You can't negotiate a divorce settlement before you get divorced, and you can't decide what brexit option you want before you decide to quit.