This really ought be be a separate/new thread, but ...I agree - very big rock and very big hard place.
IMO we're overdue for someone (probably Boris) to simply come out and discuss the elephant in the room - if we don't get the economy running again quickly, that will cause deaths (perhaps more than the coronavirus itself) going forward. We already know that suicides are up, domestic violence is up, child neglect/violence is up, routine medical treatments are down, etc, etc. At the moment, IMO there's too much pandering to the "but we must keep up the lockdown because ..." brigade - just look at all the wailing over the relatively minor relaxation of the rules the other week.
...I agree. In many senses, it would be good if the government "treated us as grown ups", but I'm far from convinced that the general population could cope with that.
If "relaxing restrictions (e.g. returning to school/work/social activity etc. etc.) only when it is 'safe' " means "only when it is so 'safe' that it will not result in more infections (and deaths)", then we would be waiting many months, quite possibly years, by which time the collateral damage resulting from the economic, sociological and psychological collapse would be catastrophic, with, apart from anything else, the capacity to result in even more illness and deaths than the virus itself.
The rock and hard place issue is that the only rational definition of 'safe' in that context is "safe enough to not result in an an unacceptable amount of morbidity and an unacceptable number of further deaths". However, that requires decisions to be taken as to what is "an acceptable number of further deaths" etc. - and it's that discussion which I'm not convinced that the population could 'cope with' if it were happening explicitly 'in public'.
Kind Regards, John