Thanks, i understood most of it, i think.
but use a bit more to the inner part of the thread so as you tighten it it will create the seal that you need before the connector fully tightens up
This may sound dumb, but which bit are you calling the 'inner part of the the thread', the last bit of thread of the connector to actually enter the female elbow?
So, putting more on that part builds up a wall so to speak?
Then do the same on the other one and when tight if they don't line up you can then back up a tad or tighten the other as needed.
Back up a tad and add more stuff to it?
As it stands both connectors will tighten past the 6'o'clock setting that the diagram shows, so they'd both need backing up, just to differing degrees.