What would you do?

[misterhelpful]

My stepdaughter works part time serving drinks in a casino (to pay her way through university), and has many regular customers.
The other night she was going through a list of nicknames for those customers: 'Coke guy'...who tips $20 for a Coke...'James Bond'...who dresses in a tux...and then the name 'Pantihose guy' came up. We asked why he has that name and, after some persuasion, she explained that he will pay $200 for a pair of the waitresses' pantihose.
We were a little surprised at first and laughed, but then when we got down to details she told us that he gets some of the girls to leave their pantihose in his home mailbox at a certain time,on certain days, when his wife is out (she is always with him at the casino), and the $200 is waiting there for them.

Now, we believe my stepdaughter when she told us that she's never done it, and we told her not to even consider it because, even though it could be just a guy with a fetish, he could also be some real weirdo with a hidden agenda.
However, she said some of her friends at the casino have done it and, to our surprise, is now thinking of doing it herself (he obviously must have already asked her). She's a grown woman (22), and no longer lives with us, but is still somewhat naive, and we can't help but worry that there could be something more sinister in the making. We can try and tell her what to do but obviously can't stop her so, with the other girls' welfare in mind too, the question is:

What would you do about it?

Cheers,
mrH

 

[Shutpa]

My stepdaughter works part time serving drinks in a casino (to pay her way through university), and has many regular customers.
The other night she was going through a list of nicknames for those customers: 'Coke guy'...who tips $20 for a Coke...'James Bond'...who dresses in a tux...and then the name 'Pantihose guy' came up. We asked why he has that name and, after some persuasion, she explained that he will pay $200 for a pair of the waitresses' pantihose.
We were a little surprised at first and laughed, but then when we got down to details she told us that he gets some of the girls to leave their pantihose in his home mailbox at a certain time,on certain days, when his wife is out (she is always with him at the casino), and the $200 is waiting there for them.

Now, we believe my stepdaughter when she told us that she's never done it, and we told her not to even consider it because, even though it could be just a guy with a fetish, he could also be some real weirdo with a hidden agenda.
However, she said some of her friends at the casino have done it and, to our surprise, is now thinking of doing it herself (he obviously must have already asked her). She's a grown woman (22), and no longer lives with us, but is still somewhat naive, and we can't help but worry that there could be something more sinister in the making. We can try and tell her what to do but obviously can't stop her so, with the other girls' welfare in mind too, the question is:

What would you do about it?

Cheers,
mrH

Ask why he's paying in dollars?

 

[EFLImpudence]

Do you think Ohio is in West Glamorgan?

 

[EFLImpudence]

I don't know what I would do about the problem.

At least, she told you about it, not that that helps with the solution.
Is it acceptable behaviour in a workplace?
What does the Owner/Manager think about it?



It does seem at odds with the fuss being made about Chris Gayle who asked out a female tv presenter live on air.

 

[misterhelpful]

I don't know what I would do about the problem.

At least, she told you about it, not that that helps with the solution.
Is it acceptable behaviour in a workplace?
What does the Owner/Manager think about it?

Yes, telling us was a good thing but I'm not sure she really meant to. She just kind of blurted it out during the conversation. I give her credit for being sensible and am surprised that she is considering it - I think it could be peer pressure.

I wouldn't think it's acceptable but if someone reports it and he gets banned from the casino, if he is more than just a fetishist, who is to know what kind of payback there could be for someone.

I very much doubt the manager knows, but even if they did, the same situation as above could arise if he is banned.

 

[jockscott]

Dunno, Your daughter could wear 7 pairs of tights in a week, so if he likes them there's a possible $1400 a week in income. Research on the internet leads me to believe, this is a fairly common fetish amongst older men. Perhaps a great business opportunity, not to be sniffed at (or probably sniffed at)

 

[Corgigrouch]

If he wants to send me a couple of hundred, then I'll send him a pair of my work socks....I won't charge him for postage.

 

[mattylad]

Initially the idea may be considered pretty harmless, and she gets her $200 each time.

However - what about when he decides that hers are his favorite and he starts stalking her?
If the other girls are doing it, does he purchase several pairs in one day or do they have to take turns? what if 2 girls turn up at once - do they have a panty fight to see who gets to post theirs?

I advise knickers to the whole thing.

 

[bernardgreen]

Spray them with pepper spray or some other highly irritating substance before delivering them to the post box, and don't take the cash.

 

[WalksWithTurkeys]

It's creepy, try and get her to think of him as a creep, and indicate that there might be more disturbing aspects to his behaviour. I would also be concerned that she takes care when leaving work in the evening.

 

[misterhelpful]

Research on the internet leads me to believe, this is a fairly common fetish amongst older men.

Was that research done purely on my behalf?

If he wants to send me a couple of hundred, then I'll send him a pair of my work socks....I won't charge him for postage.

I'll tell her to put that option forward!

Initially the idea may be considered pretty harmless, and she gets her $200 each time.

However - what about when he decides that hers are his favorite and he starts stalking her?

That is one of the main concerns, for all the girls, not just her.

I advise knickers to the whole thing.

I'm sure he would pay more for those!

Spray them with pepper spray or some other highly irritating substance before delivering them to the post box, and don't take the cash.

Pretty promising idea and would have to be done when he's not expecting anyone, otherwise he would know who it was.

It's creepy, try and get her to think of him as a creep, and indicate that there might be more disturbing aspects to his behaviour. I would also be concerned that she takes care when leaving work in the evening.

Precisely, and the biggest fear she has is being stalked when leaving work (by anyone)...at 3am. That's part of the reason why we are so surprised she's considering it.

 

[joe-90]

It sounds like a harmless fetish to me. It sounds like he's found a vent for his urges. It's those that bottle it up you have to watch. I think she should go for it.

 

[EFLImpudence]

Perhaps, - but the delivering of them sounds especially dangerous.

 

[misterhelpful]

It sounds like a harmless fetish to me. It sounds like he's found a vent for his urges. It's those that bottle it up you have to watch. I think she should go for it.

That's kind of how I see it, and as my stepdaughter says, it's an easy way to make a 'quick buck'. I'm 50/50 on how serious it could become but obviously her safety is worth more than a few bucks.

Perhaps, - but the delivering of them sounds especially dangerous.

That is probably the most suspicious and worrying part of it all. Delivery when nobody is around...at his home address...if nothing else, he probably has some kind of camera set up so he can get images to go with the goods!

 

[misterhelpful]

Another thing about it that I find a little alarming is that, once the girls have delivered a pair or more to him, he is then going to see them at the casino the next time he is there. I'm pretty sure that, if I was doing it, I wouldn't be comfortable serving a guy who has my dirty pantihose to sniff, and would be wondering what was going through his head every time I was near him.