Hi
A nephew of mine is experiencing bullying at work.
He is relatively young ie his early 20's.
It's an office environment small firm. The bullying is the worse type IMO where a manager/boss
is the bully and thinks it's ok to take the **** out of his staff by various ways to humiliate staff
and has his sidekick that lol whenever he does something like that.
I've had first-hand experience of being bullied at work when I was very early 20's left it was the manager and her cronies and this happened again at another place, much larger place and it took me a while to determine if I was being bullied or just poor at my job I was in my late 20's at the time 27-ish
A good friend and I went out for a drink and he told me how he felt when I told him and it was before the days of the net and we came up with a plan but it took guts, masses of stress at times we felt like leaving as the lead bully got their cronies onto us - thankfully great union guy.
NB: Be aware that if you join in the lol when someone is being humiliated/mocked at work by anyone inc the owner/managers/etc and you do nothing about it, it could be you next and more importantly, you are contributing to the nasty atmosphere by doing nothing and this will inevitably leade to others suffering and possibly you being the next target.
Bully takes many forms and its not just knocking off someones hat etc.
EG
There are lots of other ways.
I've told him to keep a diary and make concise points re incidents, date, times and who witnesses it and what happend. People he has reported this to and speak to the union.
I've also told him to contact ACAS in confidence as one of our children had a poor experience with the owner of the firm where he and his cronies felt women were up for it and if you rejected their advances you did not just have the blokes bullying you but women as well, possibly because they feared for their own job. Our child was going to leave having tried the personnel dept etc and witnesses to fearful to state the facts we understood that. They marched her out of the building saying they were to fire them a lie. Our child got our help inc my ex and family got onto ACAS and presented them with the facts as our child had records of when it happened and who she reported it to then by chance they met someone else that had been so-called fired who went through the same ****. The bastards settled out of court.
So, other than keep records, report, (has talked to bully but they lol it off "bit of fun") and having contacted a "useless union rep" they will contact ACAS Monday.
Is there anything else??
FYI - This nephew is highly qualifed, very quiet, smartly dressed, excellent timekeeping/etc/etc and a bit shy, hardly says anything and to confirm their good work record glowing, really glowing reference from previous 2 employers in the same field. This one was closer to home and paid more, ie 15/20 mins walk from home no catching the train etc they love the type of work.
Many thanks
PS: I've told him, don't leave, don't retaliate but I understand how they want to leave as I've been there and its easy to leave.
A nephew of mine is experiencing bullying at work.
He is relatively young ie his early 20's.
It's an office environment small firm. The bullying is the worse type IMO where a manager/boss
is the bully and thinks it's ok to take the **** out of his staff by various ways to humiliate staff
and has his sidekick that lol whenever he does something like that.
I've had first-hand experience of being bullied at work when I was very early 20's left it was the manager and her cronies and this happened again at another place, much larger place and it took me a while to determine if I was being bullied or just poor at my job I was in my late 20's at the time 27-ish
A good friend and I went out for a drink and he told me how he felt when I told him and it was before the days of the net and we came up with a plan but it took guts, masses of stress at times we felt like leaving as the lead bully got their cronies onto us - thankfully great union guy.
NB: Be aware that if you join in the lol when someone is being humiliated/mocked at work by anyone inc the owner/managers/etc and you do nothing about it, it could be you next and more importantly, you are contributing to the nasty atmosphere by doing nothing and this will inevitably leade to others suffering and possibly you being the next target.
Bully takes many forms and its not just knocking off someones hat etc.
EG
- excluding and ignoring people and their contribution
- overloading people with work
- spreading malicious rumours
- Being mocked
- unfair treatment
- picking on or regularly undermining someone
- telling off staff in front of others
- denying someone's training or promotion opportunities
- harassment face to face, phone, email, social media
- mocking you age. sex. sexual orientation, clothing you wear
There are lots of other ways.
I've told him to keep a diary and make concise points re incidents, date, times and who witnesses it and what happend. People he has reported this to and speak to the union.
I've also told him to contact ACAS in confidence as one of our children had a poor experience with the owner of the firm where he and his cronies felt women were up for it and if you rejected their advances you did not just have the blokes bullying you but women as well, possibly because they feared for their own job. Our child was going to leave having tried the personnel dept etc and witnesses to fearful to state the facts we understood that. They marched her out of the building saying they were to fire them a lie. Our child got our help inc my ex and family got onto ACAS and presented them with the facts as our child had records of when it happened and who she reported it to then by chance they met someone else that had been so-called fired who went through the same ****. The bastards settled out of court.
So, other than keep records, report, (has talked to bully but they lol it off "bit of fun") and having contacted a "useless union rep" they will contact ACAS Monday.
Is there anything else??
FYI - This nephew is highly qualifed, very quiet, smartly dressed, excellent timekeeping/etc/etc and a bit shy, hardly says anything and to confirm their good work record glowing, really glowing reference from previous 2 employers in the same field. This one was closer to home and paid more, ie 15/20 mins walk from home no catching the train etc they love the type of work.
Many thanks
PS: I've told him, don't leave, don't retaliate but I understand how they want to leave as I've been there and its easy to leave.
