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imamartian
no names there............... (moron!... whoops! apologies)
Would you disown your child??????????
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no names there............... (moron!... whoops! apologies)
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You gone to bed then imam bet it's another wet pillow night 
Why can't you keep topics to the original subject?
LMB originally asked if you would disown your son/daughter if they told you they were gay, not child molesters/killers etc.
A perfectly reasonable, intelligent and sensitive question gets hijacked by some on here who turn it into a personal slanging match. Grow up and behave like adults or go and play in the school yard FFS!
From my point, if either of my children had turned out to be gay it would not have made a scrap of difference to the love I feel for them as a father.
I would fear for their safety in this so-called liberal yet viloent society we live in but my ultimate goal is to see them happy in whatever walk of life they may choose to live.
LMB originally asked if you would disown your son/daughter if they told you they were gay, not child molesters/killers etc.
A perfectly reasonable, intelligent and sensitive question gets hijacked by some on here who turn it into a personal slanging match. Grow up and behave like adults or go and play in the school yard FFS!
From my point, if either of my children had turned out to be gay it would not have made a scrap of difference to the love I feel for them as a father.
I would fear for their safety in this so-called liberal yet viloent society we live in but my ultimate goal is to see them happy in whatever walk of life they may choose to live.
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I only have one child, a daughter, she was a bit of a miracle really,we had problems conceiving but somehow she got thru all the hurdles and was born to us doting parents.
We had some tough times early in our marriage like everyone else,mostly financial but also emotional but we over come them all..
basically times was hard but we had a child and that was enough to complete our world.She was good at School and went off to uni, met and fell in love had two perfect little boys and came home to live near us, life was perfect, I couldn't believe how lucky I was and would occasional pinch myself to make sure it was real.
last year my daughter walked out of her family home to live with her same sex partner,her personalty has changed and she has little to do with me and only has her little boys 5yrs and 8yrs a max of 3 days a week, the grandsons stay with us often a couple of times a week and we will take them on holiday, we are trying to keep their lives as normal as possible.
Naturally I love my daughter and I don't have issue with her being Gay but I am confused! she probably is too! my friends are gay and I don't consider myself a homophobic but she thinks I am, because "I don't talk nicely to her girlfriend and avoid eye contact with her" this isn't true, I think she's looking too find these things, it feels like our world has fallen apart, not because she's Gay but because she's left us!
I s'pose its more "would you ever disown your parents!!"
We had some tough times early in our marriage like everyone else,mostly financial but also emotional but we over come them all..
basically times was hard but we had a child and that was enough to complete our world.She was good at School and went off to uni, met and fell in love had two perfect little boys and came home to live near us, life was perfect, I couldn't believe how lucky I was and would occasional pinch myself to make sure it was real.
last year my daughter walked out of her family home to live with her same sex partner,her personalty has changed and she has little to do with me and only has her little boys 5yrs and 8yrs a max of 3 days a week, the grandsons stay with us often a couple of times a week and we will take them on holiday, we are trying to keep their lives as normal as possible.
Naturally I love my daughter and I don't have issue with her being Gay but I am confused! she probably is too! my friends are gay and I don't consider myself a homophobic but she thinks I am, because "I don't talk nicely to her girlfriend and avoid eye contact with her" this isn't true, I think she's looking too find these things, it feels like our world has fallen apart, not because she's Gay but because she's left us!
I s'pose its more "would you ever disown your parents!!"
With respect conny, the thread is entitled "Would you disown your child??????????" So, the door was opened to suggest any number of reason why someone may decide to disown their child being "gay" was an example.
Well Richard's just killed the discussion with a dose of reality!
Seriously though, hope it all works out, early days yet and I'm sure she'll come round. She's probably distancing herself cos she feels she needs some space to adjust, think of it as hibernation, or that she's in a cocoon and waiting to emerge as a beautiful butterfly. Or something
Got a friend of friends who came out a few years ago. She didn't see or speak to any of her close friends for months (her choice) but they are all best buddies again now, after she'd fully 're-invented' herself.. ~
I would like to disown them, how can I do this?
Move house, change your name and get Groucho Marx glasses complete with nose/moustache/cigar.
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Shifty22
I'd love to say that i'd disown them but I don't think this would be realistic.
My half brother recently came out as being gay, my parents are the most anti gay people I know, they'd even switch the TV off if there was two guys kissing for example. They were devestated, my father sunk into a really low point in his life almost to the point that I thought he may do something stupid. This has all blown over now and they all get on but it will never be the same, you can see that the father and son bond has been broken and they are more on a "friends" level. The conditions set down by my parents that he was free to do what he wants as long as he doesn't bring it into their home, therefor no gay talk, no boyfriends welcome into their home etc. I think this would be the exact same scenario that I would be in should either of my sons turn out to be gay. I actually told my brother to stay the f*ck away from me and my kids for a while but it soon became apparent that this was hurting my parents more than it was him.
He stayed at my house last week and he strayed onto the topic of boyfriends and I felt my stomach turning so I told him to change the subject. No matter how much society has accepted this, I haven't and I refuse to be bullied into sharing the majority view just to please people.
Homosexuality is a part of life I accept that, to me it will never be "right" and idiots like as mentioned earlier such as Gok Wan and Graham Norton only compound a dim view by the likes of me on homosexuals.
My half brother recently came out as being gay, my parents are the most anti gay people I know, they'd even switch the TV off if there was two guys kissing for example. They were devestated, my father sunk into a really low point in his life almost to the point that I thought he may do something stupid. This has all blown over now and they all get on but it will never be the same, you can see that the father and son bond has been broken and they are more on a "friends" level. The conditions set down by my parents that he was free to do what he wants as long as he doesn't bring it into their home, therefor no gay talk, no boyfriends welcome into their home etc. I think this would be the exact same scenario that I would be in should either of my sons turn out to be gay. I actually told my brother to stay the f*ck away from me and my kids for a while but it soon became apparent that this was hurting my parents more than it was him.
He stayed at my house last week and he strayed onto the topic of boyfriends and I felt my stomach turning so I told him to change the subject. No matter how much society has accepted this, I haven't and I refuse to be bullied into sharing the majority view just to please people.
Homosexuality is a part of life I accept that, to me it will never be "right" and idiots like as mentioned earlier such as Gok Wan and Graham Norton only compound a dim view by the likes of me on homosexuals.
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lifesagasman
Yes, a very valid point and I admit my error.
However, does it still need to result in name calling/slagging off becuase someone doesn't agree/like anothers point of view?
Seems a pretty childish response to me to be honest. If you have a view/opinion express it, if you disagree with someone elses viewpoint either put up a sensible reply/argument without the childish response or if you are unable to do so in an educated way then say nothing.
Seems easy to me.
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lifesagasman
If I had a son like shifty, a self confessed racist homophobic who disapproves of (other) people buying new cars, I would disown him.
Fortunately, my son is normal.
Fortunately, my son is normal.
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dextrous
Well you know about me creeping in the back doorfunny you should turn up on this thread dex as there has been much talk about you and camping
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