I live on my own and have never been in a long term relationship, too selfish.
I don't see it as selfish, rather I am being selfish in wanting the advantages of having a partner to share things with, to some extent share the running costs, the workload and share the responsibility. I live alone in a home built to house a family of 4 or 5 - that I do see as being rather selfish. I could quickly resolve that, by letting rooms out, but I really wouldn't want the aggravation of doing that.
go for it.
I would certainly want my wife to continue living her life to the full if I went early.
Me too, but have you made that clear to her?
That is what I did/am doing and too be honest, I had already given it some private thought before she passed away. It wasn't something I could have discussed with her when she was alive, because just talking about it would have so upset her.
Go for it Harry, but don't rush in to it.
I have already rushed into it twice since my original partner [1] and it hasn't worked out well. I was all for rushing in a third/fourth time, but she is the one saying wait. I have had two friends be highly critical of my moving on, one of whom, after a many decades long friendship - I had a fall out with over the criticism.
[1] I also rushed into it with my original partner, but that worked out mostly fine for 35 years.
I was lucky #1 was here, because I had a major health incident in the middle of the night - a very serious oesophagus bleed, from which I could have died.
100% Harry, you go for it.
dont go too young on the age, nothing much below 25
She is 18 years my junior, but is extremely keen. She had a very bad time with her husband and he left her in a very deliberate mess when he died. I had one woman of less than half my age really desperate to be rescued, but I gave that a miss.
I started the thread, mostly to see if some of you guys had agreed anything with your wives/partners, rather than discuss my arrangements?
